Few who want to hear criticism to their address, especially when it comes to destructive criticism, when a person shows a negative to you, not leading any arguments. Often we lack patience and ability to distinguish rudeness from the possibility of correcting something in your character. We will tell you how to benefit from criticism to your address.
Take into account the quality of the people who criticize you
Very often they are trying to "teach" just uncompatible people who are confident that the faithful opinion is only one thing - they are. Inappropriate criticism, they are trying to shift responsibility and partially recharge your response. If you feel that the conflict is glowing, try either to leave, or treat the situation of philosophically - healthy indifference saves in many situations.
Do not take criticism to heart
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Learn to identify the essence of claims.
Sometimes a criticizing person is difficult to arrange his thoughts, and he expresses his opinion in the form of a claim to you, again, moving to the person. In this case, check with a person that it means that it specifically wants to fix in you. Having received an answer, do not rush to edit yourself with phrases like "I knew that I wouldn't succeed in me," there are always some problems with me. " Instead, focus on the decision - what you can do so that the situation does not happen, perhaps you need to change something in your approach or just understand for yourself what kind of person it is.
Work over your self-esteem
If you are touched by the words of colleagues or friends who are not always happy with you, let them dissatisfy and reasonably, it can be in a low self-esteem that needs to be corrected as soon as possible. As a rule, people who are unsure of themselves, in addition to external criticism, begin to criticize themselves even stronger than those who can do it. It will not end, it will not end, you must understand this - Samochy usually gives rise to neurosis and other mental disorders.
If you feel that the situation does not let you go, please contact a specialist, together with which you can work out your problem. And be sure to make yourself mistaken!
Allow yourself wrong
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