Often, girls and women want to find their half, get married that giving her heart and hand in love, they eager also give him responsibility for their lives and freedom,
You seek to live not your life, but the life of a guy or husband. Rather, you have an illusion that it is now that you have found a partner, your life has finally become complete. You yourself feel "whole" only next to "him."
"His" life is important and interesting, and its own, as if not so valuable, and even secondary. "His" opinion is always true, and even if you disagree in the soul, they are offended and angry, it is impossible to express it. His mood and condition you catch at the time, it flows into you, as if your pair is a reporting vessels. God forbid, "he" will be dissatisfied with or angry. You immediately becomes very scary, and you feel bad and guilty.
In such respects, the partner seems to be an almighty figure, which can make it possible to make one of its presence or affectionately, but it can also be easily deprived of this happiness, plunge into the longing when disappears or angry.
You are waiting for the partner of the same thing a child needs, who has just come to this world. Love, warmth, adopting, so that he guessed and performed your desires, devoted you my time and energy. Some part inside you did not grow. She is hungry before love and really needs care and care. Perhaps you feel ready to give the same immense love to the partner, by becoming His Mom. Only you and he, and no one else needs you.
But sooner or later you discover that you do not get from your favorite what we are waiting. You have little attention, his words, time spent together, you allow him to cruelly treat him and consider such an attitude deserved, because it was angry it. In the soul, pain and insult, disappointment and anger. There are many wounds from misunderstanding and rejection. But your young person will not be able to heal these wounds, no matter how much you really wanted, as they appeared in your soul a long time ago and caused that you entered such a connection.
Sometimes, the relationship becomes so painful and dissatisfying that they want to break out of them. But loneliness is scary even more than the pain next to the partner. You seem to find yourself in very swinging swings. Then you are in bliss next to your beloved, forgiving and forgetting all the insults, MLEMA from one of his presence. Then you feel the looping and unnecessary, angry and hate it, yourself and the whole white light, literally sick from longing and despair. And they are ready to give everything in the world to get a new "dose" of love again, which will remove and muffled painful pain.
Exit from any dependence, including from love, not easy. Your determination and desire to change the scenario of the relationship that you use in your life are very important. And also the desire to change your internal script.
It is important to recognize that there is a problem of love dependency. You do not imagine life without this person and can not get away from him, even despite the fact that the relationship does not satisfy you much. With this you need to do something, the problem itself will not dispel, but only aggravate.
It is important to raise your own self-esteem. You may need a specialist help. But you need to accept and feel the fact that you are good and valuable just because they came to this world. You are not worse and no better than other people. You are valuable by your uniqueness and the very fact of your existence, like every person. In order to feel happy and full, you do not need another person, you need to know yourself better.
It is important to work out the skill to designate and defend your borders, say "no" if you don't want something, or something inadmissible. Often from fear to be rejected and abandoned, the girl is not solved even to pronounce this magic word "no", thereby allowing you to trample and pour your feelings. At the same time feels deeply unhappy and incomprehensible.
It is important to be in contact with your feelings. Learn to listen to what happens to you. Not to what happens to your partner and to what he wants, but to his feelings, feelings and states. You are a separate person, you have your own desires, feelings and thoughts. They signage you about what you need or about what is bad for you. If you learn to recognize these signals, you can feel more and happy and filled. You will need less to look for support in another.