Many women, fearing the treason of her husband, secretly checking his phone and carefully study social networks and the browser tab history. I will say unequivocally: it is wrong, because the constant fear of treason is able to destroy even the strongest and healthy relationships. The mistake of women in this case is that it constantly violates the personal boundaries of his spouse. Difference is wounded and offended by a man. Step by step accumulates discontent, which leads to internal devastation, uncertainty. As a result, a man with pleasure begins to take signs of attention from other women, and women's fears become reasonable.
Anna Saintanenikova
Let's analyze how fear of treason is formed. There are certain parallels between this fear and others that people suffer. We are afraid of what we have no power. Often, at the base of the phobia, there is some story surrounded. Be sure to be a friend, relative or a neighbor, which has changed her husband. Moreover, the woman is always close to the perfect image: the mistress, beauty, beautiful professional. As a result, a certain "script" is formed, in which the result of any relationship will be treason and their subsequent collapse. All this forms a negative attitude, which launches the development of phobia.
The problem here is that a woman cannot analyze the situation on all sides. The causes of fear of treason should be sought in problems with self-esteem. Such women are at a very low level. They are confident that unworthy of love cannot give a man what he is waiting for his girlfriend. As a result, treason as it would confirm concerns and strengthens the complexes.
We are subject to such fear those women and girls who experienced the betrayal of the partner. When entering into a new relationship, they, like a tape recorder, drive their memories and emotions, trying to find a mistake. As a result, in the new relationship, she launches a "negative scenario", suspected and attacks a pushing man to find attention from other female species.
In such cases, the assistance of a psychologist is often necessary. The task of a professional is to return a woman's sense of confidence, give a guarantee that the world is not hostile, and others are always ready to help. Return to a positive state of a person can then be able to understand that someone has divided pain with him, supported and just listened to him.