Let's start, perhaps, from the main thing - on all children's questions without exception must be answered. And to do it as sincerely as possible and, if possible, honestly. This is an absolutely normal situation - when the child is interested in something and asks something, because in this way he knows the world. Unfortunately, not all parents are ready to respond to endless "why" of their child. Many will ask not to ask questions and do not interfere. It turns out that the initiative to find out how this world is arranged, punishable. He will receive an answer to his question or in a rough form - "Do not ask questions, do not bother," or in the blurred - "I will tell you about this evening / tomorrow", etc. All this leads to the emergence of self-restraints that concern new knowledge and information. A healthy psychological person is always interested in something even in adulthood, he is always ready for development. The one who else in childhood was zombie not to ask extra questions, in its development zuda. Such people live boring, gray and insane.
Why should I (should) be removed from the table, if you eat everything?
In the family, everyone has adults and children have their own duties, all family members help each other and go to each other towards each other. And the sooner you explain to your child this immutable truth, the easier it will be to agree with him when he becomes a teenager. You can simply ask for help in response to the question: "Why should I (should) be removed from the table, if you eat everything?", Because you are difficult for all family members to clean up - you have a lot of cases (hereinafter the listing) and you without assistant. Or the assistant can not cope in any way, it is necessary to wash the dishes yet.
This is an absolutely normal situation - when a child is interested in something
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Why is my clothes cheaper than classmates' clothes?
A rather scrupulous question, which, of course, can be answered that you are trying and do our best for your family and specifically your child needs. Such questions are asked already in conscious age when the child begins to understand the difference in the social and financial position, which, as is known, depends on many factors, which can be briefly talking to their child. Sometimes the children are difficult to understand all the efforts that you send aside the achievement of financial well-being, but it is not worthwhile and shame for misunderstanding. The problem can be solved by a frank conversation and if a child has some expensive dream, you will agree that it can be done: let it not immediately, but gradually. But the child will accurately appreciate your efforts.
Do you have sex with dad?
I agree that such a question specified without preparation is able to shock and force to silence any parent for a long time. You can answer that all adults and adult people are engaged in sex who love each other and consist in close relationships. In general, it is worth paying attention to what people are having sex to move a little degree with the physiological needs of a person toward spirituality. Still in priority relationships, not sex for sex.
All family members help each other and go to each other towards
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We all die?
How do you understand, yes. Of course, the child should not explain the anatomical details. The baby can be told about the angels who are sitting on the clouds and watch us, and that we all, ultimately, have a chance to become such angels. Older children can be told and more frankly on such a serious topic. It happens that this question becomes relevant when someone is sick or left in the family, in such a situation a child must certainly prepare in advance, but without injection of emotions. The easier and calm, we react and speak of difficult topics, the more adequately children understand them.
Why do I have such a big nose / red hair (that is something about appearance)?
Because children are like their parents, and sometimes even on their grandparents. So the world is arranged. Heredity is a fundamental factor. And this big nose or red hair, freckles and so on got you from dad or mom. They give you a highlight and individuality. Always emphasize the advantages of the child, praise it and tell him compliments. It instills confidence, gives a feeling of security, feeling your love, child learn to love yourself. And this is very useful in adult life.
Why is Petit / Vasi (or Mask / Kati) between the legs differently (how to talk with a child about sexual differences)?
It is believed that for the first time about the difference in floors, the child begins to think about the age of 2-3 years. Therefore, to be surprised that the child is interested in how people are arranged and why they differ, absolutely normal. At the same time, psychologists say that in a conversation, why boys and girls are arranged in different ways, the emphasis you need to shift a little to the side, and what unites those and others. After all, you agree, nature has created us not different, but complementary by each other so that we can love and create couples, to start family and children.
How was I born?
The leading question that is given to each parent. And since we live in the age of technical progress, it is better not to mention about cabbage and storks, because someone is already aware of the playground or in the kindergarten. Someone from the kids is quite satisfied with the answer: from the mother's tummy. Some are interested in: what I did there. By the way, you can tell about how the kids turn over, fight legs and suck from time to time. For example: "I immediately realized that you would love football, therefore you were kicking canceled." Of course, there is a category of kids "I want to know everything", which will definitely ask: "How did I get into your tummy?" And here you need to go deep into biology a little: how much, decide for yourself. It all depends on the age of interested. You can not call things with your own names. But much from the truth of life is better not worth it, I assure you, it will be discussed with like-minded people.