Tests are given to us so that we become stronger, and also - so that we better learned ourselves. Maternity in itself is a challenge, and to raise a child in proud loneliness - a great reason to understand that you are for "fruit." It is not even pooud salt to eat. The man is all like a palm. The famous writer Tatyana Vedenskaya recently released a novelty "Key to the heart of Maya." An excellent reason to meet and listen to her thoughts on important theme for many women. After all, Tatyana herself passed through this path and raised her daughter.
«I remember how it was. I sit on the sofa, but my year old daughter sleeps in the stroller, and I try to realize this fact - I was left alone with the child. I - nineteen years old, I want to watch the cartoon about Chip and Dale, I want someone to hurry to help me, but ahead of me years of motherhood alone. I remember looking at my daughter and I think: no, I'm not ready for this. I do not cope. This is all some nightmare.
The first thing you learn about yourself Left alone with the child is how much you are in fact working.
I, for example, had no idea that I could remake so many things per day, and even with a child in my arms. In fact, before I stayed with the child, I was where lazy. Life made - and I learned how to organize my time and resources in such a way as it was enough for everything. Children have grown, but the art of self-organization serves me faithfully so far.
Raising the child in proud loneliness makes it possible to understand a lot about yourself
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The second thing you will learn about yourself - It's how easy you can divide everything in the light of "important" and "unimportant."
Feed the child is important. Wash the floors - unimportant. Find work at home is important. Catch with friends - unimportant, but very necessary, because, you know, otherwise I am generally refused to wake up in the morning.
Third: A single mother will know very quickly that she, it turns out, is not an angel at all - and not even going to be.
When you have such complex tasks in front of you, you often become straightforward. Picture an ideal daughter? Corresponding strangers expectations? To pretend what you are interested to listen to the hundredth time about the country gatherings of your girlfriends? Well, no, a single mother has no time to darken. And there is its own charm, because to be "not an angel", it turns out that it is easier. People start to respect you and reckon with your opinion. An unexpected and pleasant bonus.
Fourth discovery - Sleep, it turns out, you can stand, and with open eyes, and even in line in ERC.
Resting with every opportunity, resting so that then the whole year remember - single mothers know how to appreciate the free minutes and hours. Oddly enough, when you are loaded over the measure, any sip of freedom brings much more pleasure.
Fifth: The moment will come when suddenly you will understand that my mother, it has been not so wrong when he advised to wait, begged not to give up his studies, think about the future.
Successful single mother, oddly enough, find time in their "scored" time to make reliance, to improve the qualifications, get a diploma. Helps the organization and self-discipline, which I have already written above.
But The main discovery that is waiting for mom-loner, this is what she is still able to love and be beloved. A strikingly, but the number of successful marriages concluded with women having a huge child. Mother loners, as a rule, turn out to be beautiful wives. They choose the right men, do not rush, do not make nonsense, characteristic of romantic young princesses, and - as a result - often be happy in a repeated marriage. But this, as they say, is already another story. "