How to stay for your man desired and the only one? This question does not come down with the bands not a single publication. And it is relevant every day. Many women are allowed to move all their spells and trumps to take possession of male attention and become for him that very. However, there are four unshakable rules that a woman must observe to be next to her a man. And it's not only in the length of the legs and beauty.
The main thing is the soul, the rest does not matter?
Modern fashion offers a lot of tricks: make the legs longer, the skirt is shorter, the eyelashes are black, lips lubrica, etc. But it happens that with all the manipulations, the woman still remains unnoticed and lonely.
Another extreme is the married ladies that are no longer too trying to care for themselves, because the husband has seen anything: in the morning, and the patient, and the crying. Many such women firmly belief that the main thing is the soul. And if the husband loves the soul, then the appearance no longer matters. Unfortunately, the belief is how stable, so incorrect. Alan and Barbara Piz, American researchers in the field of relations, concluded that men with all their intellectual queries and other features unconsciously prefer women who:
- sexually attractive;
- Capable for the birth of a healthy offspring (as they say the condition of the skin, hair, teeth, elasticity gait, well-groomed and harmony);
- able to serve this man : Tasty cook, follow his clothes, homely comfort, order, and so on.
- Verny and devoted to this man.
Interesting list! At the same time, both for men, and for women is extremely important. For ladies that are too relaxed belonging to care, it can be an alarm signal. The male body produces 5 times more than women's hormones that are responsible for such a state as adean and passion. That is why they carefully, picky and choose their own companion. Many painfully react if women in their understanding make themselves less attractive: they cut their hair, wear something like that. Thus, women seem to understand that men were mistaken with the choice that they are not the sexiest option.
I sacrificed
Now about those who do not know how to build and retain relationships with the external gloss and sexuality. This is hardly possible to explain only the hormonal background. Although, even if you adhere to the classification of piz spouses, then the CT 2 software criteria are associated with the ability of a woman to "be for a partner" and invested in relations.
In the minds and culture of our population, the concept of "invest" is often confused with the concept of "sacrificing". Many women are ready for everyone, just to be close to the man and put a tick - "I am in relationships."
An example of this can be: listening to uninteresting stories; An attempt to save a friend from the hangover, instead of going through their affairs; Sexing "Because he wants"; Hovering money for an indefinite period; Giving expensive gifts, even when they are unrequited.
Men feel that their partner relocates. He feels ultra-long, and after committed victims for him - also guilty. Therefore, it often escapes even from stunning beauty. The feeling of guilt and debt kill any desire.
Therefore, a balance is important in the matter of constructing relationships, meaning that inside and the fact that outside. Check your wardrobe, refresh the appearance, make it well-groomed and rugged. So men around you will be more than more. Well, the ability to invest in a relationship is the art that will have to catch all my life. Dare!
Maria Zemskova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazina