Authoritative expert on male psychology, coaching on the relationship of Lion of the Leshevatov in his new book "BDSM: Goddess for his man. Finding, attracting, charm, "gives important advice to women, how to think and act in a new way, seeking happiness by a smart, elegant and efficient way.
The strategy "attracted - pushed out" . This is the most important strategy for any woman. This is a strategy for life, and it is necessary to own it in perfect. All in the life of a woman - either loneliness, or a long and happy family life depends on this strategy.
So. First stage - for a woman. Yes, and yes again yes! The flower attracts bumblebees with its appearance, because the bumblebee will not fly to nettle. Therefore, it is necessary to become a flower. It is impossible to attract a single man taken, not being attractive for most men.
All women love the expression: "A man must be a hunter, let him run for me." For some, this dubious position becomes the slogan for life. No problem. Let's deal with.
So, the forest. The hunter with a gun makes his way through Burning. Suddenly, unexpectedly because of the Christmas tree, a bunny appeared. The ears waved, the tail of rotator. The hunter noted (aha!) And ran after him. While fled, overcoming the obstacles in the form of ravines, holes, broken trees. Fight all the time while I saw a hare in front of myself. As soon as the hare disappeared - the hunter stopped. Bunny again appeared in direct response from the hunter, and the race continued.
If the hare appeared already in a kilometer from the hunter on the hump, the hunt would end as quickly as it began, due to the inexpediency of chase.
This is a metaphorical answer to those girls who complain that suddenly the man disappears sharply. Or maybe he realized that you were too far from him?
Return to our pursuit. Overcoming these tantalums flour, the hunter still catches the hare, carefully holding him in his hands. Valuable comrade, for half the forest had to run and legs into the blood.
What to do to keep a man to hunt?
Now about you and about men. Everything likes exactly the same as in the scene described above. So that the man began to hunt, he needs to show that he (attention!) There is a chance. And many girls walk through the streets with such faces that they are afraid to approach them!
What is happening in the heads from many women? "So, here it is worth it, all so cool, so what? I am also cool! He probably thinks that all women have his feet?! PFF, something else! Yeah, if he thinks so, if he is so cool, then I'm not like that, I am special, I'll give him a breakdown, I will pretend that he did not impress me. Let him pull and he will begin to achieve me! And then the men already laid everything! Accustomed to freebies! Here in America ... "
But in the end, nothing happens. And all because we, men, pardon, stupid. This is too complicated for us!
Do men like? Smiles - it is necessary to approach and get acquainted, I don't smile - I didn't like it, I will go from here. Here we are simple.
Secure the script material "Chase":
1st stage - attraction.
The 2nd stage - the man reacts and attracted.
3rd stage - push off.
The 4th stage - again attracting.
The 5th stage - a man overcomes obstacles and falls in love.
You went out on the street with a beautiful Friday evening. In the crowd of passersby your beautiful gait and a magnificent appearance (attraction!) 100 Men noticed.
Of these × 100, they decided to approach and meet 15. Among these × 15 fourth, you were interested. While you talked with promising specimens, they felt your excellent mood and ease of communication (attraction!).
In communicating with you, they felt like something in a special way. The body began to feed the signals of the brain - it is cool, not Tupi. The brain is also shocked by pleasant communication (against the background of other girls), and he rapidly gives signals to continue acquaintance, in parallel, including male activity.
A man wants to call and chat, but you doubt a little (repulsion!), And there are overloads from a man - the fear of losing such an interesting girl appears, which in turn sharply increases your value in the moment. After some time, the man still gets your contacts and negotiates the meeting. You said goodbye, but the fact that he had to beat in the first stage, plus the way you are cool (feminine, playfully, easily) led, creates a special aftertaste. A man thinks about you when you are not. He worries. Worries. Scrolls your acquaintance. Trying to find in social networks, everything is stronger and harder in love, without knowing it. Well, then - more.
Why does it work?
We will definitely train this mechanism (attracted, and you will see how simple it is simple and effective. I have more than once asked why it is? And where does such effectiveness come from? The answer was not forced to wait a long time - this is a natural model. Still, people are primarily animals, although social, and in the first place we have instincts, and then everything else.
Therefore, in the subject of relations, women's education, erudition and manners play only a secondary role. It is much more important that a man feels when you're near.
I see, you have questions, and you read everything carefully! What to do, so that Charismic immediately felt height next to you and met?
Oh, my good, you will learn about it a little later, and we will return to this wonderful technique to work out on the other hand. And now simply understand the mechanism of the swing (attract / push), remember it and learn to see all its manifestations in life.
Yes, I understand, to exercise your active life position at least unusual. But it is worth only a little plunge into men's psychology, and fears will begin to decrease. See myself!
Active VS passive
Meet: This is Nikolai, he is 40, the owner of the restaurant chain in Moscow, I was looking for a new wife.
- Nikolay, tell me, what woman do you need, personally you? But let's not talk about appearance, but about the essence.
- Which I want a wife? I realized that life was still, well, if not a war, then the struggle. Fight for resources, for place under the sun. And often in this fight I as a combat unit I get damage. This is metaphorically. The bailiffs arrived, the deal was broken, the company falls apart, a friend betrayed, a foot breakdown on sports, etc. With our entrepreneurs, everything is not always rosy and simple. On the contrary, we are forever overcome through blood, sweat and even tears. And here, metaphoric, I fell on one knee on the battlefield, all in the blood. Armor punched, but the wound is not deadly. My wife runs up here: "Oh God, what horror, how so! Well, you have forever shine somewhere! Well, what should I do with you ??? Damn, blood goes! I only updated manicure yesterday! And in general, I do not know what to do in such situations! Always upset me! Observing with my own problems! I want a calm family life! "
As I will imagine, so immediately shiver takes. No, I do not want this. I want the one that, despite the fact that beautiful and feminine, for a while he can take a heavy machine and will shoot until I get up and recover.
And only the woman who will be, like there ... Emmm ... is spinning in the language ... with an active life position, in! If, when you meet and communicate, I see a passive, I understand that this is the whole remaining life. Active woman tells me invisibly: I am active, I myself manage my life and choose those people with whom I mean in life. I am responsible for my happiness! And it's great! So I understand that the woman is conscious. It is an adult, not infantile, and its level of intelligence above many others. I will steer in the family, but if necessary, she will solve the issue with a clinic for our child, will come up with holiday options on vacation, while I turn at work, and will manifest itself in other fields. This is not just a beautiful doll with duck lips, it is damn, a full person.
- Cool! And what do you say women who are afraid to act and wait for the weather in the sea, they say, I'm a girl!
- I will say this: we, people of business, always note the presence or absence of energy in man. You can be passive, but at the same time energetically filled. I have seen such a situation last week: a woman went into our restaurant, sat down at the table and began to choose something from the menu. I looked at her, and she was impatient. But how! Not just buried in the text, but looked into my eyes, then somehow all silent and, rushing, covered the face with his palm. It was very cool! Of course, I approached to meet, but unfortunately, she was married. Passive? Formally yes! But at the same time it is filled with female energy. And it is impossible not to feel. "
And here is the feedback from the desired target audience! But what am I hearing? Stop! What is this sound? More precisely, voice! Some nasty female voice!
"Girls, do not listen to him, what for unhealthy activity? If the man himself did nothing at first, he also did not want to show anyone and blink anyone. What more! It is necessary to just be ourselves, and the men will appear and do everything. "
All clear! This is Svetlana Semenovna! Well, let's get acquainted with her ... she is 52. She works in a clinic, and she was alone all her life. She always has frowny eyebrows, even when she nurses a nephew. She does not have her children and will never. She decided so. Men offended her, and she understood what is better than one. She will often appear in our conversation with you, because such Svetlana Semenovna is in every woman, and in you too. She is a kind of fears, limitations, malice, disappointment and despair together. So here. About waiting from a man's activity. There is too much competition now and too little time to wait for something. Well, waiting for you, and what? Nothing! Stop waiting! It's time to act!
Female, but act! "