Everything has long been over, but you still think about him. The old insults do not give rest - he really wound you. Passing on "your" places, constrain the tears, with the memories of the days spent together, in the stomach, the butterflies flute. " Perhaps you have long been married, happy in other respects, but these memories ... What if everything could be different?
If you no longer want to live last, spoil your life and relationship with useless memories and finally ready to forgive, let's figure it out in the main thing: where did this attachment come from? And, finding her roots, we will treat the cause, not the effect.
It is worth recognizing that the woman makes it happy not what the man next to her is, but what it becomes with him. We are tied to the feeling of themselves who have found with a man.
And most importantly, what needs to be done is to understand what kind of resource has revealed a man in you. Remember your relationship, the most warm meetings and the most emotionally significant events for you. What did you feel then? What thanks to him?
I will give an example. Angelina came to me for consultation, very beautiful, spectacular, successful young woman. She recently left the man, realizing that she did not want to have any joint future with him. In her 35, her former beloved was another absolute child who could not make decisions and bear responsibility for them. Of course, Angelina did not want to associate himself with such a man, but continued to remember him all the time, overhanging his profiles in social networks every day.
Then I asked her the same questions: "What was you in this relationship?", "What did you know about yourself?"
And she told: "All childhood parents cultivated courage, determination, volitional qualities in me. Never praised me for what I can be tender and caring. And only with him I could reveal these qualities by 100%. I to some extent became a mommy - a loving, of course host, ready to climb and regret. And I like to be such a sense of delicate, feminine and host. "
We define the next step, as otherwise in your life, can you implement this resource? Angelina decided that he could embody all these qualities and without a man who was not suitable for her. It may be more understanding and caring with employees, parents and, most importantly, with himself.
A few days later, Angelina wrote to me that he completely stopped remembering the former, he feels inspired and full forces, and it seems that he never suffered on this occasion.
So, let's formulate the algorithm:
- Remember the most significant moments of your relationship and answer yourself to the question: what did you know about yourself what you become with this man? Perhaps you felt our sexuality or the right to be accepted certainly, or your uniqueness and talent ...
- Think, how else can you embody these states in life?
- Itself!
All the most important wealth and resources are only in you. Having learned to realize them without binding to another person, you will become self-sufficient, and therefore you will gain the opportunity for real love - not a sacrificial and dependent, but mature and reinforcing you both.