Each athlete knows that hold the title is much more difficult than conquering him for the first time. Also in life: to bring attitudes to the coil of joint residence - just half down. In order for the experience of not the son of difficult mistakes, consider the most popular of them.
Raider seizure
After the woman triumphantly crossed the threshold with a suitcase in his hand, the space, once completely belonging to the man, begin to fill the jars with creams, panties with lace and other folders with documents. It would seem that there is nothing unnatural about it, but after a while all the angles turn out to be "moved", and the owner of the house begins to annoy such a rapid expansion. Now imagine that all his childhood has passed in the struggle for the territory, for example, with an older sister. For the past twenty years, he tried very hard to forget the feeling of helplessness, accompanied him in those days. But here you appeared ... well, if a person realized his reaction on time and calmly designated the borders. Otherwise, he just wants to get rid of the invader.
Mergers and acquisitions
We will talk again about the borders, but in a broader sense. "I love you, so would eat," sounds romantic until the man feel that he really intends to absorb. Favorite requires a report about all contacts and movements, even jealous even to a pensioner concierge, wants a joint account in the social network and spend together twenty-four hours a day. Most likely, such behavior will cause a protest, and turns will have to be thrown in. But if you still succeed, make a castled sofa cat from the tiger, the creator of the first will lose interest to him. For the same reason, it is advisable not to be eaten and the most. Just do not forget than the process of digestion ends.
"I'm looking at you as in the mirror"
Projections - the mechanism of psychological protection, in which its own features, thoughts or emotions are attributed to another person. It is very convenient if necessary to assign on someone's guilt for your shortcomings or unacceptable desires. Classic: "You have one sex on mind" or "Why do you think you should all?" If the defendant is ready to swear that he does not think so, then the prosecutor should listen, whether his depressed sexuality says, and from whom he himself would like to recover the debt.
"My dear, good, guess yourself"
For some reason, some think that they have a running line on their forehead, and people around - all the telepaths. This error served as a reason for many conflicts. Polwy, if the partner is simply waiting for you, like a good mother, understand the intonation and expression of the face, Hungry, wet or tired. Much worse if he says not what he thinks or feels in fact, in the hope that you solve his maneuver. For the sake of the happiness of your new family, do not support these games and do not inspire them yourself.
"Crowding pigs turn into a crucian"
If you are tormented, but hopefully remade who you began to live, then part in the very first year - not the worst option for both of you. The introvert will not be loved by the parties, the owl is not releasing in the lark, and it is useless to make a horse from the cat. And, most importantly, there is no need. After all, quite exactly somewhere lives a person who fits you on temperament and worldview. He is also looking for you. And fortunately, never change.