Ideally, sex should not bring any negative emotions and especially pain. As a rule, the fear of sex passes after the first sexual contact, when no barriers - neither physiological, nor psychological - no longer remain. However, psychologists are increasingly faced with the appeals of adults, successful people for whom intimate proximity is a real nightmare. We decided to deal with the reasons for this phenomenon.
What is this problem?
Sexologists call the fear of sex eotophobia. At the same time, the disorder, and otherwise it is impossible to name this problem, a sustainable belief is formed that sex cannot give anything other than negative emotions. Even kissing people in public transport cause Eotophobes extremely unpleasant feelings that we can talk about the opposite sex attempts to make a hint of his sexual attractiveness.
How does the fear of intimate intimate proximity manifest?
Eotophobia can manifest itself completely differently from a noncomfortable state to real panic attacks. However, most often with this phobia are women who turn a whole bouquet of problems against the background of their fear - vaginism, constant pain and gipping in the genitals and other gynecological problems. Many factors may contribute to the development of disorders, which of them are the most popular, we will figure it out further.
Psychological factor
As in most of our psychological problems, the source of fear can be too conservative education. Parents wish their child the best, and therefore they try to protect him from early sexual contacts, and they do it completely differently: someone scares the child with problems that will bring sexual contact, and others stop any attempts of a young man to start whatever relations. As a result, an adult cannot get rid of the installations imposed in childhood. If the problem begins to deliver serious psychological discomfort, without consulting a specialist can not do.
Do not expect the problem to be solved by itself
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Physiological features
As we know, the attraction is inextricably linked with the hormonal background. The female hormonal background is very unstable, and therefore a sharp decline in the level of androgens can cause a steady disgust for everything that is associated with sex. Another reason can serve as various gynecological diseases, such as varicose disease of a small pelvis or various inflammation. Every six months, gynecologists are recommended to undergo a small pelvis organ examination in order to identify the problem at the Early Stage.
Your surroundings
It is no secret that our worldview is more affected by our environment to which we strive to match. Every day we hear about sexual exploits of their friends or acquaintances, if our personal experience cannot compete more successful in this regard, they begin to emerge doubts - is I good in bed? Maybe my partner is dissatisfied, but not recognized in this? Further winding itself on this, first leads to an adequate state, and then IR depression that blocks the attraction.
What to do?
It is important to immediately understand the therapy will be long. As a rule, any qualified specialist in the field of psychology will be able to assist you. The main thing is not to tighten with the solution to the problem and realize that in itself the launched state will not pass.