It so happened that the phrase "destroy the family" is always associated with the participation of third parties. The main destroyer is considered, of course, mistress . Say, such a "beautiful and brave" came and carried out someone else's husband. A man in this context is not an independent unit, but is mentioned solely as a wordless property, it is completely deprived of needs and desires. I will start right away from the main thing: you can lead a shepherd ram or even money from the account, but each adult makes a decision he himself. It may sometimes seem that the husband is like a rope - the ladies are dragging it, and it seems to not accept any decisions. That's just incomplicating the solution - and there is a solution. Perhaps a person is afraid to do wrong, taking off between the desire and a sense of guilt. Or simply enjoys his own demand. In any case, no one forced him to create a love triangle.
The following in the list of evil geniuses - mother-in-law and mother-in-law . A huge number of jokes is difficult about them not by chance. Really funny to hear threats: "I will not accept! Resear! " As if the man unconsciously does not choose his wife, relying on the image of the mother. Here, as they say, we will sing, then you will get enough. Most likely, the son unconsciously chose the same, but little annoying stronger than his flaws in another person. Or deliberately chose the full opposite, which can cause a claim: "Not our person!" In the complaints of the eve and daughter-in-law, it is often possible to hear the notes of fatalism: "I completely led, but we live with her!" The phrase is even better: "And where am I, in your opinion, deny?!" I answer: re-read the "thunderstorm" of Ostrovsky and take an example from Barbara. Families destroy not parents of husbands or wives, but inability to build borders in relations with them. And without fail with someone else's territory. The sooner, the better. Remove the apartment or a room in the hostel, sign up for the pioneers on Mars or Kochgars on the Aurora - any option will mean freedom. That's just responsibility for relationships with my husband will be your personal business.
Friends Also mentioned as the destroyers. It happens that comrades need our help, but if some poor fellow lives in the house of the married couple, look for someone profitable. Of course, life is much wider in a family relationship, and each of you can drink coffee or play football separately from the other. But if no friends do not go around, it is worth thinking, don't you get bored together? If friends for some reason configure her husband against his wife, and he is configured, then the problem is not at all friends. Most likely, they see his mood and just want to support. If the opinion of the husband does not coincide with the opinion of friends, nothing will prevent him from close this topic once and for all.
Someone sees the danger even in Children . Some spouses, despite the desire to ever become parents, may decide to change the composition of the family. Someone sees a potential opponent in the child, and someone is an inexhaustible source of highly exaggerated restrictions. Some couples really fall apart, but not because of the child directly, but because of the reactions of the parents' psyche, the catalyst of which he involuntarily acts. Another classic fear: "Who needs me with a child?" Even if someone was found, who needs, a woman continues to feel guilty. If this is your option, immediately stop being accused. Children are not a free app to you, and your joy and your pride. If the cell of society is cracking on the seams due to the collisions of the son and a new husband, pay attention to the processes of the child, your family is first of all.
Despite the large temptation to find an external guilty, under the clue it becomes clear that the main danger to the family is those who created it. Destroy the family can war, a natural disaster or an epidemic of an unknown disease, in other cases the choice remains yours.