Dr. Sciences of the University of Calgary Chitter Champant said true: "Children do not wake up in their thirteenth birthday with the habitual ripening day. Even little children know sexuality, but only in a different form. " Indeed, the process of puberty of the child begins literally from birth - with a touch of mother's chest and unwillingness to dress for a walk. With age, sexuality acquires other forms based on the acquisition of knowledge from a close environment and special books. Having become a parent, you must understand what should and should not do to raise an enlightened and non-complex child.
Paul ripening begins literally from birth
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Start of puberty
Immediately after birth, the child's consciousness is not yet clouded by the rules of behavior in society, which he will be in the following years. Doctors have repeatedly said that the desire of a kid to the study of his own body does not need to be perceived as a deviation in its development. Under the age of 4 years, for children naturally touch their intimate places, even in humans; desire to touch the breast mother or other women; Carefully observe the bodies of other people when the child falls into public places. Do not tell the child to study yourself and look at others - it is indecent, otherwise he has a rejection of his own body from an early age. It is better to answer natural questions about why the bodies of boys and girls differ. If you can not explain it yourself, seek help to literature - now there are quite good books on this topic for children of different ages.
Leave a private zone
At the age of 4-6 years, children show more interest in their sexual authorities, but not yet realize what he is called. Do not prohibit the child to study ourselves, but explain what you should not do this with people. Even better, if you tell about the anatomy of the structure of female and male genital organs on the example of schematic drawings and explain the basics of sexual education. For example, that he can touch him himself, or the closest people during hygienic procedures and a doctor during inspection. Yes, it is a difficult topic, but to close your eyes and hope for a miracle. According to WHO, about 20% of girls and 5-10% of boys are subject to violence in childhood. Better, if you step over through yourself and explain the baby safety rules.
if not ready to speak yourself, offer to read the book along with the child
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Learn to talk correctly
Explaining publishing questions, try to speak naturally and not show bright emotions. Laugh at the child's questions or joking on the theme of ripening - not the best undertaking. At the age of 7-12, children are already more interested in the topic of puberty, which is displayed as games with sexual subtext - familiar to everyone "bottle", "mother's daughters" and others. At the age of 13-16, children begin to openly show interest in the opposite sex. Do not be afraid to start talking with a teenager about why people have sex, how to prevent unwanted pregnancy and what principles should be guided in the beginning of sex life. According to the National Child Traumatic Stress Network, in a recent survey of American adolescents, 9 out of 10 children said that it would be easier for them to postpone sexual activity and prevent unwanted pregnancy if they could "openly and honestly talk" with their parents on these topics .
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