Olga Marandi - the organizer of weddings. "The ability to see the happiness of victims and communicate with happy people gives me the strongest impetus to action, this unimaginable positive energy is another meaning of life. And I am ready to do everything so that happiness around has become even more! " - promises Olga.
"In a modern sense, the engagement is rather a wedding rite, tradition. However, in ancient times, she played a big role in the life of the bride and groom. For example, after the engagement, the young people could no longer abandon marriage. Now the proposal of the hand and heart is an unexpected and romantic moment in the life of every girl.
The engagement (collusion, engagement, depressure, pre-weddice) is a preliminary agreement on the conclusion of marriage, which had previously retained, in part, not only the domestic, but also a legal significance. So says Wikipedia. With its origins, this rite went from those times when paying the price per girl stopped accompanied by directly issuing her to the bridegroom or the head of his family. At this point, the marriage broke up on many rites. One of the paramounts is a rite of engagement or engagement.
Of course, no legal force of the proposal of the hand and heart currently does not bear. You can bring a lot of examples when the pair was engaged, but I didn't play the wedding, and later I felt at all. So it happened, for example, with Britney Spears: The singer and her failed spouse Jason Pyravik terminated the engagement and at the same time remained good friends.
In Russia, the engagement is generally formal. Rather, this is a romantic moment: one of my familiar future spouse made a proposal, putting the engagement ring in a bag with burgers from McDake. Someone comes to this point more seriously and attracts friends to Flashmob, someone collects close relatives, and someone goes to the Maldives.
And before the presence of relatives on the hoop was obligatory - future spouses were exchanged rings, and parents blessed young. And here - do not be surprised - the story of a marriage contract much more older than we thought with you! When engaged, the parents set the conditions for the conclusion of marriage, that is, the most real marriage contract was concluded, often in writing, which was bonded by the symbolic rite of "Hands" between the fathers of the marriage. Hence the tradition of asking his daughter's hands at the head of the family - her father.
The rite of the engagement was so significant that after him to abandon the wedding was already impossible. But if such a thing happened, the guilty side reimbursed the losses, providing the so-called "fee for disgracing". Moreover, the Russian church recognized the inconsistency of the engagement.
However, all the penalties and penalties were abolished in 1702 by Peter I, which believed that such commitments are deprived of young free will. "Fee for dishonor" has since turned into a dowry. The relatives of the bride collected the future bride dowry from childhood - starting with bed linen, ending with gold.
In Russia, the engagement is more likely a formal value, but still the proposal of the hand and heart is the first step in love with the family.
Men, make this day unforgettable!
If the ritual of the engagement is firmly decided to hold, you need to decide what format it will happen. Several options. First, it is necessary to decide whether this intimate event will be - only you are together - or relatives and friends will be invited.
If you have chosen the "Tet-A-Tet" option, it should be unexpected. The girl in nature loves surprises, and the proposal of hands and hearts for her will be the best gift in life! In this case, you can invite your favorite restaurant. Or lead her for a walk into a favorite park, where to play an unexpected scene, for example, to find a ring in foliage or in the snow. If finance is allowed, it is worth taking a ticket to warm countries and on the ocean in the ocean give her a cherished box with a ring. No matter how banal it sounds, but it is unlikely that the girl will be dissatisfied with such engagement.
And you can paint this momentous day by calling for help friends. In this case, the possibilities are limited to your fantasy. Recently, it became fashionable to organize a flashmob under the windows of the beloved girl, shouting about his desire to marry, to hear all her neighbors, and then put this video on the Internet so that you learned the whole world about your happiness.
A feast with parents implies the predictability of an event. That is, the future spouse will know why guests are collected. Tears of the dignity of grandparents, the joyful exclamations of relatives and numerous congratulations enter the "package of services".
Whatever the engagement rite is the first serious step towards family life. He is not necessary to be afraid, he needs to be done unforgettable! "
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Olga Marandi