One of the many problems of our upbringing is to endure the habit. Women agree to endure a disrespectful attitude, manifestations of aggression and indifference, just not to stay alone. Prepared several phrases that every girl heard at least once.
"Well, I just joked!"
If after a joke you remain unpleasant aftertaste, as if you were poured on you a bucket with mud, then in your relationship it is clear something wrong. Even worse, when such situations are repeated from times at times: the young man sees you that you are unpleasant to his progressive comments, but can not keep silent when you want to make. Red signal - offensive jokes in the company of his or your friends. After that we advise you to urgently collect things and leave for a person. You are in front of you inherent personality, which by humiliation you are trying to cover your own shortcomings.
from stupid people need to leave, and not be upset because of them
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"It is useless to change me - I will stay the same"
What do not say, but any relationship is the work of two people. If you are not ready to sacrifice your free time, attention and freedom for the comfort of loved ones, then your partner is not so important to you. No one says that it should be closed in four walls and communicate only with each other. However, you must work on relationships every day - to take steps towards each other and change for the better, making your loved one, and otherwise why join the relationship at all? When the partner tells you that it is not to change it, you should not charming with it and think: "Wow, what a strong man next to me is not the heel." In fact, such a phrase means only "I don't care about you and your desires, you will be tolerated - we will be together, you will not be - we will break up at least now." Make, often in such words there is a proposal to part - this is also a red signal.
"My former was not very ... Prove that you are not so"
Having heard this phrase, you should have two questions: why does he speak badly about a person, in relation to whom it comes voluntarily? Why should I prove something? To the same person, a few of his acquaintances are different only because they look at his identity from different angles. Each of us is a combination of advantages and disadvantages, whose attribution to one or another category we define the rules established in society. Never try to prove to the partner that you are ideal: a normal person loves the other than delicious borscht and perfectly ironed shirts, but just so, for no reason. You are also a person and have the right to the manifestation of emotions - do not hesitate to your nature, but always evaluate the adequacy of actions.
"Parents think you're not a couple"
Hmm, how to gently hint to the girl, what do you plan to part with her? There is such a type of men who cannot take the will into a fist and honestly say a partner that he does not suit them. Instead, they will come up with a hundred exclusion - from a bad attitude towards you moms before your disrespect for his friends. After all, shifting responsibility to another much easier, right? Each such phrase is just inexorable manipulation that experienced girls can get a second. Invite the beloved to move to live to parents and build relationships with them, and find yourself an adequate partner.
Do not keep the relationship that you need to complete
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"Look, what did you do - satisfied?"
Remember: Whatever you do, any situation can be solved without a screaming and accusing you in the lack of brains. Have you broke the car, broke the iron or poured a glass of wine on the road sofa - all this is worth it to humiliate? Definitely not. Each person sometimes happens Neakkurata and inattentive, but it does not give him partner the right to abusive behavior. Only at such moments you will see a man hereby and understand whether he is able to calmly solve the problem or only knows how to hide as a child.