Not every child is ready to perform on matinees, standing in the first row on stage, or make friends at least every day. Most often, the modesty is inherent in melancholic children immersed in itself, but parents also contribute to the formation of uncertainty. How to help the baby to overcome the condition that can prevent him in the future? We tried to figure out.
Let the child more freedom
Already at 3 years old, the child is able to express his opinion, which parents must at least hear. If you even make lessons at high school together with the child and accompany it to school, it is not surprised by his discontenancy. Becoming older, the child will constantly look for support, which can push it into toxic relationships that will hit him even more by his self-esteem. Loosen control if you feel that you live for the child yourself.
Do not criticize the identity of the child
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Do not force
Anxious parent, leaving his own fear, makes the child see the world in black and white paints: "Do not be friends with these guys, it is dangerous," "Do not walk one, can offend" and that's all in such a spirit. And no, this is not a manifestation of care, but only the expression of the anxiety of the parents themselves. As a result, the child does not receive the necessary skill of communication with peers, which prevents him from acting decisively.
Everyone is mistaken
Since most of the time a shy child spends with his parents, he constantly waits for assessing his actions on their part, but by being in the company of other people, he is terribly afraid that unfamiliar people will not appreciate him. As a result, the child closes in himself, trying not to attract attention, thereby avoiding condemnation in the event of a mistake. Explain to the child that any error is not the end of the world, each person has the right to be imperfect and mistaken.
Avoid critics
Remember that children do not know how to share the situation in the degree of importance, which means that even the slightest reproach to their address they perceive as a real catastrophe. Instead of condemning the choice of clothing in the store or, even worse, start comparing with other children, tell me what you would do on the place of the child, without moving to insults and tough criticism of the child's personality.