The closer the first of September, the more many parents lose their inner calm. Even if the child is no longer a first-grader, the parents do not care anyway, and on the eve of September 1, along with children, convulsively begin training. How to make the school caused for mostly positive emotions? Let's try to figure out.
Sometimes parents themselves are afraid of schools. Usually this fear grows from childhood, due to negative experience. Parents often admit that they are not on their own, when they even in adulthood go along the school corridor, and if they meet on the path of the director, as well as the heart goes away. In our country, the school is perceived as something among the most intelligent, the necessary stage of development, from which in the future will depend on how the life of man begins, which completely explains the fear of this institution. However, you should not share this fear with a child, it is important to help yourself. There are several installations, getting rid of which it will be easier to live this difficult period in length of 11 years.
Just understand: not everyone is given to learn to "excellent"
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First: "The child must learn to" excellent "
And how was it in your class? All were excellent? Most likely, several people. And it did not depend on the desire of parents. Just understand: Not everyone is given to learn to "excellent." The point is not the fact that someone is smarter, rather, not everyone wants. No matter how you try to persuade the child, if he is not interested, you will not be able to make him be an excellent student. You may not have noticed that in our schools a rather oppressive atmosphere. Children go there as the cautious, and not for knowledge. Our education is trying to fit certain knowledge, but at the same time absolutely does not take into account for these knowledge. Try not to put pressure on the child, and you will see how your relationship will come back.
Second: "The child should do lessons on his own"
Hardly. In the first grade, you should not ask lessons, but still ask. Almost everywhere. Be prepared for joint evenings behind textbooks and notebooks. Here the most important thing is to show patience and excerpt, because the child will not immediately be clear. What is obvious to you is absolutely not clear and will be in a novelty for your child. He has not yet reached the age to compare with you in logic and thinking. Often parents continue to do lessons with a child and in high school.
In the first class should not ask lessons
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Third: "The child must understand the importance of learning"
In younger school, you should not raise the conversations about the need for good education for further well-being in adulthood. The child is incomprehensible that for adult life and when she comes, he lives here and now. So focus on what you can get (or vice versa - to exclude) in the near future. For example, a good assessment for the control in exchange for an hour of walking with friends.
Fourth: "Evaluation indicates knowledge level"
Many children, unfortunately, seek to be better than everyone and earn a cherished "excellent" in the diary, only to make parents are pleased, and not in their own interests. We all understand that "unsatisfactory" is just an assessment, but it is difficult to keep yourself in your hands at the sight of red teacher lisps in the notebook. This leads to the fact that the child goes to the board as a penalty, and sometimes earns nervous diseases. Think that the teachers are also people, and they can be mistaken and require too much. So try to praise the child even for trifles.
A child can have completely different interests.
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Fifth: "Once I could not, this will make my child"
No need to inspire your failures and failed plans. The child may have completely different interests. We accept - the child will not jump above the head. He would prefer to deal with his affairs than to spend time on what you had lost your head at one time. Just like you did not want to do what parents were forced.
The main thing is your trustworthy relationship with the child and his mental health. The quiet will be your child, the easier it is to you with him will pass this long school way