№1. Test on trust.
A teenager is a man who comes into adulthood. If you are confident in his friends, if you trust your child, then it needs to be released to celebrate New Year with friends. If you trust the teenager, then it is already ready to celebrate the holidays in your company. The child should have its own space. At this age, without exception, children try to adult life on the teeth and want to feel adults. Of course, they will try something - do not even doubt it, but the good news is that much depends on the company and education: if this is not a bad company, then everything will cost without negative consequences. A teenager should understand what they trust him, and the level of confidence rendered to him will be tested on New Year's Eve: if he is released, it means that he is trusted.
Organization of a festive party - also check on independence
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№2. Friendship for a teenager in the first place.
If a child is asked to celebrate the new year in the company of friends without adults, it means that they already have their own holiday scenario. Most likely they thought out everything in advance - a few months before the new year. In this scenario, adolescents are investing a lot of personal - this, which cannot be shared with their parents. At the party, they can discuss their love affairs: 12-14 years old - this is the time of the first love, which, according to the emotional component, cannot be compared with any adult feeling. Children, as a rule, do not share their experiences with their parents, only with the most close things - with their friends. Friendship in the adolescent environment is one of the most important concepts, because the level of trust between friends at this age is maximum. Friends are the closest people. Do not deprive the child's child! If he wants to spend this night in the company with those from whom he has no secrets, he needs to let go. For him, this is the best holiday. If you prohibit him the new year in the company of friends, forcibly leave at home, you literally cut a part of friendship from it. The strongest relationship is friendship between adolescents, swept through all his life. Do not make efforts to destroy these relationships.
In adolescence, friends become the most close people.
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Number 3. Test for adulthood.
Children in adolescence feel quite adults. If they want to celebrate the new year, without adults, then let them make it. But set the conditions: let them cover the table, prepare, remove the apartment before and after the party. If they cope with everyone, and the holiday can, for them it will be another step in adulthood. In order to organize a New Year's party without adults, you need to show responsibility and independence. And if they all succeed, they will be very proud of themselves and feel themselves in the new capacity: they are already doing something from themselves, they are worth something - they are really adults. New Year's party is a good test for parents, and for children. For parents - this is another brick in the education of the child, for a teenager - checking friendship and friends for strength. Allowing a teenager to organize a New Year's party, you will understand how your child is an adult, his level of responsibility.