The relationship is not so easy - you don't know it. However, where alone come across the life problems and are trying to solve them, others create problems themselves and come to unresolved contradictions. I remembered several typical phrases of girls who never help them establish equilibrium in a partner relationship.
"You always disappear at work, and there is no time for me!"
Girls want two things at the same time - so that the man generously spends money on them and sit at his feet like a faithful dog. Only the life of an adult person is not a fairy tale at all, where money falls on his head from heaven. If your beloved has a business or it works to hire to get enough for a worthy standard of living, he needs to be immersed in workflows almost all day. A wise woman understands this, because all working time is busy business, and does not send a hundred posts in the messenger to his partner. Respect someone else's time - in the evening you will have the opportunity to discuss the past day for dinner.
Be support to each other, not enemies
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"If you go to friends right now, I'll leave, but comes up!"
Permanent gatherings with friends with drinking - not at all what you expect from the partner with whom you want to spend your life. However, in most cases, the problem is not at all in this: the girls do not let go of the beloved to the buddies not because of his addiction to alcohol, but because of their paranoia. Then it seems to them that in the company of men suddenly the unmarried familiar friends will appear, with whom he will certainly change his only one. They will come up with that friends set up a guy against them and persuade him to return to the bachelor's lifestyle. Remember: Your partner is an adult adequate person, not a ram, whom you can lead, and not a child who can be convinced of something. Do not equate the behavior of friends and acquaintances of your man to his behavior, because it is a separate personality from them with its installations and norms of morality.
"Or you change, or I find a man to myself better!"
After such a phrase, the relationship should come an end. With blackmail, you will never cause a man's desire to change, but only tune it against yourself. Jointing someone in a relationship as an honest person, you must take all the pros and cons of the partner. By contracts, you can suggest it to change household habits, but you will definitely fail to correct the norms of the behavior of the adult person. In such a situation, it is better to disperse and find a suitable pair than fighting for a non-existent goal and make each other unhappy.
"But my former was more active in bed ..."
Comparing its real partner with the former, you only provoke the complexes from him and form an idea of what has not yet come out of past relationships. Every time you want to say about what you liked in an intimate life with someone from the past, bite the language on the moment of instructions of a particular person. Say better: "You know, I would have been nice if you agree to try something new, for example, ..." This wording implies a proposal to choose a person, and not the initial reproach to his skills. As an alternative, you can buy a sex toy to improve stimulation and show it to a partner, or see him movies for adults on the moment that you would like to repeat.
Your mutual wisdom helps to keep the desire to go to the conflict
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"In your life I am not in the first place - I do not like it"
Will you never come first in the life of a partner - surprised? In the first place for him, he should be, only then in value, places between family, self-realization and you are distributed. If a man assures you that you are the meaning of his life, then he has not yet achieved anything significant in it (and it is unlikely to do it). Appreciate the men who are committed and seeking to their goals, and not blind romantics who will sing you serenades under the window and nothing but this. It is better to perform actions than scattered with the words, followed by anything. In my own life, you also have to be in the first place - love and appreciate yourself to meet the same decent man.