Should I trust a man?

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One of our readers wondered, relevant for many women: is it possible to trust a man who is near? Trust is important for any relationship, and for a woman confidence is the basis of relationships. It is in such conditions that she can relax, open its partner. Safety is something that the woman first is waiting for his man.

"I had an important conversation with him, in which I said that I would not support communication with him even in a friendly format. He did not agree with this and said that I do it in vain, and someone there from his surroundings specially wanted to ensure that we do not communicate. I fell asleep with the question, should I trust it? Did I do the right thing that broke the relationship?

And the same night saw sleep:

I'm near my house. I see that my man waves my man from the window of the second floor of the neighboring house. First I am surprised and I do not know, react or not. Masha hand to him in response. I go to his house, climbing the border and look at it in the window. The window suddenly becomes more - from the ceiling to the floor, so it can be seen what is happening there. He says he has a party, and offers to go, I find yourself. There are many people in masks. I understand that, apparently, he has a costume party, and that he always suits such events. I wake up at the same moment. What does this mean?"

Sleep is a direct reflection of not only conflict accumulated years, but also processing the daily accumulated emotional events of the day. We read how the heroine is tearing a relationship with your partner. It is a pity that we do not know her motives. In a dream, she sees a costumed show in the window of his house. Probably, perceiving his behavior like a masquerade, show, communication under masks.

At the same time, the dream of our heroine shows her that she as if she was looking at the life of her man, but he did not participate directly. Sleep illustrates her that she judges someone else's life not from the inside, but as in the project "Behind the glass." Spies itself, instead of direct communication.

In Gestalt therapy there is a concept of projection. This is an unconscious transfer of our parties to another. We attribute other properties that are difficult to adopt. For example, we attribute to other aggressiveness, falsehood, cowardice. Even reject people who seem like us. Or rather, it is more convenient for us to see them like that.

Let's try to assume that games, masquerading, theatricality is the parties that the dreaming unconsciously attributes to his man, although herself plays with him to the game, instead of genuine communication. Thus, the dream only reflected the mutual game of the pair in their relationship.

Maria Dyachkova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazin

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