There are those who choose whose stories they browse. If you use social networks from the point of view of intention, and not a habit, then a visit to other pages comes from a deliberate choice. What does the constant monitoring of social networks of former partners? The psychologist Galina Yanko will answer this question:
Galina Yanko
"After breaking in the brain there are many things. In general, we, people like sympathy. Therefore, if we are upset after parting and are not ready to return to the world of dating, we want our former too. Checking someone's social networks makes you feel that you can see their life without being in their lives. Thus, we check their social networks to see how they are doing after parting, there are signs of what you miss you. Also, checking someone's social network makes us feel that we are still connected with someone. Watching former in your life can help feel that you still know what he does and what happens in his life. Many people are afraid of gap, which is accompanied by uncertainty. To resist its uncertainty, you can enter the page of the former to gain a sense of awareness, which gives you an instant sense of control and relief. Or you desperately hope that someday can be together again.
The problem is that each person copes in different ways with a gap, and the relationship has different value for everyone. You can check the page of the former friendly curiosity to see what he was doing. Or want to check how he is doing, as he feels in the process of recovery after a failure. In fact, viewing the page of the former partner is a way to compare your lives. They can serve as an incentive for the transition to a new personality and movement on, or they can cause you further grief, anxiety and sorrow about the fact that it was so obviously lost.
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A former young man most likely notices your surveillance. If he knows about it, he can go further and ignore it, or take some additional measures to create the best borders. It may worsen your relationship and reduce the possibility of friendly communication in the future. Also, unfortunately, it can lead you to strangle. It is impossible to live someone else's life and engage in cyber pursuit, even if you follow at all for the ex. It prevents you from achieving goals and function normally in the outer world, and not online. The most correct option is to distance themselves and not worry about any social networks relating to the former. They are blocked only if someone crosses the line, otherwise it is not worth the effort. Remove from friends and subscribers your ex if you are hard. So you will not be able to check its social networks. After parting, you need time to come to yourself and let go of the situation, and the constant check of his social network keeps you as if tied. A month later, you can restore communication in social networks, because at this time you will be in another state, the prospect will really help you. "