Based at the beginning of the 20th century, Gestalt-psychology in Germany quickly became popular due to the fact that he helped people quickly cope with their disturbing issues. At a session with a psychologist, customers disassemble their fears and problems in the present, finding a true cause in the past. Each unresolved situation imposes on us an imprint in the form of negative emotions, negative attitudes and other things that prevents living in rich and rejoice every day. It will try to help you deal with problems and find a way out of a difficult situation.
Ask yourself questions
If you do not have a financial opportunity to turn to a psychologist, spend self-analysis - this is an alternative method that you must use every time you encounter a problem. Take a sheet of paper and at the top of the center write the name of your problem, then ask yourself the question "What feelings does it cause me?" And write down everything that comes to your mind. Think about why each emotion is associated with this event - look for answers in the past, remembering specific situations. If nothing comes in the head, contact your parents or friends - they will help you refresh my memory. For example, a person can subconsciously avoid water, not even remembering that he almost drowned in his childhood. In the chair of the psychotherapist, memory is excited by hypnosis, but you will have to independently make a mosaic from the fragments of past events.
Observe the source of the problem
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Highlight the pros and cons
Everyone, if he wants to develop, should work on his own personality. Yes, loved ones should take you if they want to communicate with you without conflicts and the desire to correct the person who has ever been. However, this does not mean that you as an adult does not need to work on your shortcomings - aggressiveness, fear of trusting people, negative, squeamishness and other things. Happy people are not those who do not know the problems, but those who understand them. Take another sheet of paper and divide it into two columns - to one, write out your positive qualities, to the other - negative. Remember when you noticed bright manifestations of these qualities - this will help you associate an event and its result. We believe that it is important to work not only with negative attitudes, but also with positive, so as not to provoke the false feeling that your life consists only of a series of errors and failures.
Complete unfinished cases
It is important not only to think, but also to do. If you, for example, did not bought a beautiful doll in childhood, which you dreamed about, take and buy it yourself. The same applies to the installation "Better I will buy something close, than please yourself" - she comes from a close environment, when parents sacrifice their needs for children or grandchildren. However, the speech here is not only about purchases, but also actions whose commitment you are thinking about. You can regret that evil answered the school girlfriend, they offended the neighbor or did not talk to souls with a former young man - consult these people and explain what you feel. Even if you get a failure to communicate, you will know that you have tried to do something, and you will sleep peacefully.
Do not stay alone, ask for helpful
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Do not be afraid to get help
Having survived a negative experience, we all tend to close in relation to others, believing that our problems are needed only to us. Yes, listening to the ever-sharp friend does not like anyone, but to support a person, whose character is worthwhile, maybe everyone. Call your girlfriend and tell me that you are sad - she will listen to you and give the faithful advice. You should not always be a strong person, and at night cry in the pillow: the strength is to recognize the problem and to open in the decision to change the situation. Do not hide your emotions and do not be ashamed - they make you who you are.