There are all fears. And this is normal. But one thing, when spiders are afraid - do not interfere, do not affect the quality and standard of living. And completely different - when the fear rises like bone in the throat, before raising or family happiness. One of these fears is the fear of competition - compete due to clothes or speech manners, due to the image of thoughts or intonation. That is, competition where it is not for and large.
Where does the legs grow from?
There is no difference in which area this fear is paralyzed - the motives and the process of getting rid of it will be the same. Two reasons can be distinguished.
1. You do not know who you are and what is your uniqueness.
For example, you bake cakes to order, like a hundred of other girls of your city. We are afraid to take a chance, show your identity and merge with a gray mass. Especially this sin glamorous chicks with pumped lips and breasts. They catch an appearance, you catch on "like everyone else", and then both are surprised: "Why did I trade on another chick / baker?".
2. You are afraid to be yourself.
Afraid that you will not be accepted as you are, afraid of condemnation for the opinion or manor to present yourself, for addiction in clothing or even for a bad habit.
Diagnose these reasons is difficult and scary. But they need to work out to breathe freely with full breasts.
What to do with it?
Start with the fact that hear yourself. Sit and answer yourself to the following questions:
- What is my positioning as a person?
- And how is a professional?
- How are your wives?
- Why doesn't my husband leave for another?
- Why am I unique?
If you can not answer these questions, then do not expect the answers to the husband, society, bosses, customers, etc. Also, the situation is with fear of them. Do not be afraid. Your personality will allocate you from the crowd. Boldly leave the comfort zone. Let him not immediately soul a lap, let the chamber behind the head, but go out!
If you answered all the questions, the world was opened and openness became for you a new comfort zone, but the fear of competition still remained, try to apply two more effective practices.
We are all different, but each - unique
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NLP - Forew!
In order not to be afraid of competition, you need to configure yourself correctly: there are no competitors in business, and the neighbors in the market, in relationships - not a rival, but other women. This is an elemental reception of NLP. If you configure yourself that you have competitors, then you are already in the fight - you need to show results, compete, compete. When you are in such a state, there is a waste waste, because you are too docked on the results of others, and notice your achievements. Equality on others is the motivation "from". Yes, somewhere it is important not to be worse, but become better, but in this case a healthy competitive spirit is needed. For example, if you decide on a diet, get along with my girlfriend - the result will be better because you will support each other, motivate and inevitably compare cons on scales.
And what have Tyson?
Remember as our father: "Do not compare your beginning with someone's middle." In my practice, I come across every day with the lack of this rule and, as a result, a variety of problems. For example, a young novice singer compares himself not with another beginner, but with the already held and recognized. If it is so important to compete, compete with those who are on the same bar with you. You after the week of classes in boxing will not go to the ring against Tamez Tyson, right? And if you leave, then nothing but bother self-esteem will not achieve. You will fight and maybe even hit the difference, but is it worth the game of the candle? Even if you feel the Great Boxer's career, then this is Mike Tyson - he will take experiences, appliances, confident in himself in the end.
Love yourself, believe in yourself, boldly go to your own goals. Competition is not terrible when you know exactly what you when you dug your uniqueness. Focus on your achievements, skills, skills and knowledge in any field of life, and you will definitely work out!