I have five children: sons 15 and 12 years old, 10-year-old daughter and twins, son and daughter, which is 4 years. My companion of the life of Julia also has two daughters (16 and 10 years old), so for two we have seven children. And the difference in the age of them is essential.
Over the years, the world's worldview is changing, his thoughts and needs. And it will definitely be reflected in the upbringing. The approach to the eldest and younger cannot be the same, because one needs freedom, the opportunity to express yourself, a serious advice, and the other is support, protection, help.
And every child, regardless of age, has its own characteristics of the character, which should not be taken into account too. Someone independent since childhood, and someone even in 20 years it is important to feel approval. Of course, education has its influence, and over time everything can change. But you need to understand: each child is individual, and the task of parents is to pick up your key to him, Maneru Communication and Education.
Tip: For proper education, an individual approach and thoughtful attitude towards the needs of each child are important.
Michael Yak raises for two with his wife seven children
Methods of upbringing in a large family
Despite the stressful schedule, I will definitely highlight the time for communicating with children. We live in different cities, so I fly to them every weekend. And I also definitely spend your vacation with your family. Not only with all children together, but also separately. For example, last year, we visited Kiev, New York and Orlando with the eldest son, have been played in Florida's entertainment parks. This year we plan a similar trip with the second son, Stepan, and together choose where to go. But this is not because I love older sons more - in our family, in principle, it is not accepted to allocate someone from the children. However, they know that I am pleased to give them time not only to everyone together, but everyone individually. The main method of upbringing in a large family is love robust.
Of course, the more children, the harder it is to distribute your attention between them. Therefore, we have traditions - joint events when the whole family is going together. These are Sunday dinners, campaigns in cinema or bowling. On the weekend, we often choose for a walk in the park, ride horses or bikes, go skiing.
But attention should not be limited to the weekend - it is important that the father takes part in the daily life of children. I drove them into kindergarten, visited Matrennikov and competitions and even participated in theatrical productions. In elementary school, I was hardly the only father who did not miss a single parent meeting. Although it is rather an exception than the rule - usually for dads to come to school akin to the painful duty, which they in every way to avoid. But it is so important - to know what your children live, are they have difficulties and problems with studying or communicating. And so nice to learn about their achievements and victories!
Tip: In addition to the time spent with all the children together, you need to find the opportunity to stay with each child alone. Children must be aware of their own significance in your life, and the best way to show is to understand that you are pleased to devote your time.
Parting of parents: How to help children survive a gap
In my life there was a difficult situation - my wife and my wife (now formerly) decided to part. It was not without conflict, mutual offensive and accusations, and our children experienced this break very painful. However, we were able to find a compromise on time, tighten negative emotions and establish normal communication. Because focused on the main thing: having ceased to be husband and wife, we remained father and mother. And this means that we will be native people forever.
Now my children from the former and current wife are perfectly communicated - as a child, the guys are easier to find a common language than adults. There is no hostility or rivalry between them, this is normal human communication. They understand that we are all native people, and it is wonderful that on holidays we can get together for a common table, chat on interesting topics, to rejoice at each other's successes or suggest a solution to some problems. And we all very closely bring together general hobbies and joint rest.
Tip: Even after the divorce, parents must try to establish warm and peaceful communication. The normal relationship between mom and dad instinct calm and confidence in children. The dramatic glow leaves, and it helps to avoid child psychological injuries.
Fatherhood and self-realization: is it possible to be successful in everything
It seems to me that it is not only possible, but also necessary - and you, and your children. First, the material side is important, because a large family is a huge responsibility. Children must have a durable financial rear to get a good education and start in life. And for this you need a lot and successfully work. Secondly, the confidence that life victories is given to you will definitely affect the children. She inspires faith in them and in yours, and in their own opportunities.
But most importantly - paternity gives completely unique emotions and experiences. I have never experienced such happiness as at the moment when my children hug me. These feelings were reflected in the songs, and in 40 years old businessman, traveler and large father Michael Yak became a singer. My songs liked the listeners, and I am very glad that the experiences that I reveal in my texts are understandable and close to such a huge number of people.
Tip: It is necessary to implement your potential, because the children will take an example with you. No matter how difficult it is to keep the balance, try not to leave your head to work, but also do not dissolve in children. They need a successful, who took place, who will become a decent model of imitation.