Popular psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky says: "When a person rises a self-esteem, his life is completely changing." The specialist believes that it is necessary to start working with it from it - to learn to love yourself without contrary to, but just like that. Other therapists agree with its position, considering that this is exactly what the absence of problems. However, not everyone can love themselves - and that's why.
Critica appearance
The society is arranged so that he is trying to fit all under a single standard. This is a measure of monitoring and ensuring the condition of comfort - people are difficult to accept that others can be more educated, stronger or slimmer. From here there are instructions as a person must behave, what to dress with whom to be friends and so on. And well, if in childhood only the gabbs from the courtyard convince the child that he is "not like that." It is worse when it is criticized in the family too: called fool, reproach in completeness or inappropriate appearance. Meanwhile, it is the words of close people who are postponed in the subconscious deeper and affect the subsequent life of a person. Be sorter with children and do not try to ulce with them from your inability to convey the thought with a calm human language.
Support the child and give him love
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Bad experience
Next after parents who can impose a serious imprint per person becomes a beloved. In adolescence, it is the appearance that more attention is paid to the assessment of internal qualities, most will grow significantly later. Breast size, roundness of the buttock, hair length and even visual acuity - everything will be criticized. If you have a child of adolescence, carefully follow his mood and try to maintain a close connection, surrounding the attention and love. So it will not close in front of you, and you will be able to help at the right moment, disappointing doubts in his unattractiveness. If you once encountered such a situation, think about what people tell you suicide words? A happy man wants to share joy, and not to insult others is the lot of mentally defective people who are trying to conquer authority and hide insecurity.
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The next danger to the psyche will take you at the end of the university. Here people are divided into two groups: some decide all the forces to give to the search for a loved one and realize in the family, others are more worried about work. If you feel about the latter, it means any failure in the course of working duties may seriously touch you. Look at the experience of successful people's success: read their biographies, look at the documentary films. You will understand that their trajectory of movement towards the goal was broken, not a straight line. One businessman said a good phrase that there are no people who were once out of fools. Each of us may make a mistake, but this does not mean that we cannot recognize it and learn on our own rake. The same concerns failures: perceive everything calmer and know that the best awaits you in front.
Do not seek recognition in other people - everyone must first take care of themselves, and then think about the neighbor. Fill with love yourself - learn to spend time alone with you, indulge yourself not on holidays, but to create a holiday from every day. Become your best friend and accept what kind of person you are. Only then will the Zen come to you - you are aware that you just love yourself.