For some reason, in modern society, the presence of a single child in the family is borne. If there is only one kid in your family, you probably heard the advice of relatives and acquaintances of Dobrochotov: "Or maybe you have another baby to start?", "It will be difficult for him to establish contacts", "What is one thing?" - And everything in such a spirit. They begin to intimidate that, they say, a Great-Age child will grow, which will see you at the neck of the good number of years.
Even if you yourself grew in the family with a single child, it is not very easy to withstand public opinion. You start worrying, and suddenly they are right and really the child will grow somehow. Let's deal with together whether these "nightmares" can come to life.
Myth # 1. The only child is always spoiled
This fear has its basis, because when the child is only one, all attention is paid to him. Parents will not be bought to resources, all their time dedicate to him. However, to single children and demands above, since it is the only hope of the family. It is starting to "Easy" and demand much more.
Social skills practically do not depend on the presence of brothers and sisters
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Most likely, you heard about the Chinese system, where the family is allowed to have only one child. Up to five years, the child is free to do anything, but then he is waiting for harsh upbringing, to which Western parents may not be prepared. Thanks to this approach, we know the Chinese as one of the most disciplined people in the world. Therefore, as you can see, it all depends on the policies of the family, and not from the presence of brothers and sisters.
Myth # 2. Unique children have problems with communication
According to most people, a child in a small family a priori is uncomfortable. Where to take this skill when he spends more time with his parents? Is it so? But think for yourself: Do you know the brothers and sisters with common interests? Yes, in the society of other children, the child will develop a team spirit in the process of the delegate of children's "property", but it cannot be attributed to adequate skills that represent the basis of communication. It is absolutely not necessary to acquire a kindergarten at home, your child is quite enough peers.
Only parents are responsible for the formation of a person.
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Myth # 3. The child will grow egoist
All small children are distinguished by this quality. However, the older they become, the less they are allowed to show it. Parents must take care of this issue and do not miss the moment when egoism will actually interfere with the child, affecting communicating with others. If the child is looked at the receipt of sole attention, there are already questions for parents who are unable to take a child under control, and no Sibling will help him. In addition, according to statistics, most of the egoists grew in large families, where it was the most attention paid.
Myth # 4. It will be difficult for a child to work in a team.
Usually, the only children rarely hear "no" from parents. They are hard to make compromises, share things and toys. However, as in the case of egocentrism, parents are responsible for the formation of the right approach to life. Of course, Tolik Truth is that children from small families are harder to adapt to the team, but not so much to blame in this lack of other children in the family. The worst in the team there are older children from large families, since they are responsible for them all their life for the younger, and they are accustomed to taking sole solutions.
Children are enough communication outside the house with friends
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Myth # 5. The child will be infantile
When a child is one in the family, he has only one example - his parents, on which he equals. He is nowhere to gain "guys", because there are no children around there, respectively, the child will grow along a more conscious model. Infantilism can begin to manifest itself only with an incorrect approach in education or due to the complex relationship of parents with their parents.
Remember that at the formation of the personality of the children-Cabingi practically do not affect - only you depends on how your child will grow.