We, women, often accusing men in indecision and sometimes the absence of masculinity. Why are such men in principle appear? It's all about the upbringing, or rather, in who exactly from parents showed a great initiative. If you have a small son, it will be great if your hand and father attached to his upbringing.
As you know, in most families, children are brought up, mostly mothers and grandmothers than men. Even in educational institutions, employees are mostly women.
A man, as a rule, is prepared by the role of the miner, so with it and bribes are smooth. It is easier for a woman to go to the teacher himself, if her child has done something, and talk to his son as to distract her husband from making money.
Encourage any manifestations of Men's interest
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However, the very important connection between the son and the Father is lost. A man plays a huge role in the upbringing of a boy, speaking as a sample and, if you want, the role model. It is from the Father, it depends, his boy will grow confident by himself a representative of a strong sex or all his life will look for supports and assistance in women.
How should this upbringing
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The only condition: the Father must be a man himself, namely: responsible, strong, volitional and confident - not to be confused with self-confidence. The boy should understand that, focusing on this man, he himself will achieve a lot in life.
However, not only the father can become a role model in the family: grandfather, older brother, uncle can cope with this role.
Start the "Education" of the Father still during pregnancy
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Together to enjoy the success and provide support in everything
For any person, the support of loved ones, and for a young man, the recognition of the Father is simply invaluable. Let your husband do not bother with warm words to the son. Many men believe that the manifestation of feelings is a sign of weakness, but in our, female, strength to change this point of view. Only realizing that the father will always support and understand, the boy will grow by a self-sufficient person and a solid person.
Teach a boy to be independent
In the communication of the father with his son, it is important to take into account the opinion of the boy, that is, there should be such phrases in a conversation, as "what do you think?", "What would you do in this case?" And all in this way. Avoid the imperative tone, categorical statements, because the son must be initiated, and most importantly - to encourage it in the earliest.
Talk about relationships with women
This area is one of the most sensitive: not everyone just speaks on this topic, even with adult children, not to mention teenagers. However, the Father needs to do this, because the attitude of a man to a woman is a marker of his masculinity. The boy already at an early age should understand the value of relationships, respect for the feelings of another person and have an idea of loyalty.
Again, the boy looks at his father and learns to handle his example. If the father refers to mother with respect, with great probability and son will follow his example in the future, when it starts to build a family with his woman.
To teach work on oneself
A man must and himself constantly develop himself as a person, get rid of bad qualities, giving the road positive. Here we are talking not so much about male qualities as about human. And in order for the child to be proud of, at the case of putting a father in an example and think: "But how would your father arrive at my place?" You need to constantly work on yourself.
What if a man does not want to take part in raising a child:
Father's upbringing in his man needs to start not when your son goes to the tenth grade, but during pregnancy. Do not shine and dedicate your man into aspects of the course of your pregnancy, tell about your feelings, let him also feel his involvement.
When a child is born, do not take it from a man. Take any help from her husband, thereby encouraging his interest in the process.
Leave them alone so that husband and son have found a common language and common hobbies. When they become one team, it will be easier for them to find solving problems in the future. Especially since there are such things in which the woman does not understand completely.
Let your husband be an authority in the family. When a man is supported, it is easier for him to contact the child with whom he will be happy to spend time, explaining some incomprehensible theme for the mother.
Leave your father alone with your son
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As you can see, there is no such man who would be a bad father from nature, they become such in circumstances, sometimes directly connected with the woman. Therefore, in your power to do everything so that both of your men find a common language and have become friends for life.