When we think about daffodils, an image that usually comes to mind is a person who loves to be the center of attention, move the vanity and obvious need to notice. Regardless of what they are like closed doors, they can be externally charming and attract people to themselves. This type of narcissus is a "grand" narcissist. There is, however, another type of narcissus is the one who externally does not fit into the image of the fact that most of us consider a narcissist at all.
Externally vulnerable daffodils are far from sociable, are usually stronger and more closed. Although they can be guided by the beliefs and the needs of the "grandiose" narcissists, their inner essence is hidden under the protective shell. While a grand narcissist manifests his character in public and conditionally protects you from interacting with him, vulnerable Narcissus can act for a smug, exercise passive-aggressive behavior and emotionally removed. Like many ambitious narcissists, vulnerable Narcissus has a fragile ego, and the impact of criticism or calling can have a much deeper impact on it. All these features may make it difficult for relations with vulnerable daffodils:
You are always in second place
If you are in relationship with vulnerable daffodil, they will always be in the first place. They can be very absorbed and will have to satisfy their needs. Your needs may be aside and ignored. You may find that in relationship everything goes well if you pay your partner love and attention in which he needs, but when the roles are changing, and you are sick or need help in a difficult situation, your partner may be unable to provide you. This self-determination of priorities means that you may find that your partner does not really listen to you or does not understand the meaning of what you are trying to convey, and all this can be humiliating, disappointing and harmful to your mental stability.
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Empty waste of energy
Finding in relations with a vulnerable daffodil is depleted because they are emotionally demanding. A vulnerable narcissist needs you to adore them and supported their fragile sense of self-importance. They will constantly need confidence and attention - while you are near and feed it with your emotions, he will behave normally. But it is worth going to a party with friends or to leave for the weekend for the city, as he will demand your participation in his life, and will not give time to relax.
Retracting into your complex networks
Vulnerable daffodils are involved in a number of manipulative and complex relationships with family and friends. And externally, their connection will look strong, but with close conversation between you you find out that a person unfriendly responds to his loved ones - criticizes their actions, life goals, in words, all that does not concern him. Unfortunately, such behavior is often noted in conditionally same-sex families - where the child raises one mother or mother with a grandmother / aunt, so he does not have a model of a family and relationship between a man and a woman. This arises at all because of the "bad" mother, but, on the contrary, from the desire of a woman to give the child the best. He adapts this model to his future relationship, honestly believing that the woman should serve him. With modern young people, there is a dissonance between the devices in the social context and their unconscious representation. The girl should be independent, and dependent on him, and cold, and at the same time spiritual - in a word, the combination of this in one person is impossible, and therefore such men will be in search of the companion.
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Using tactics manipulation
Communication with vulnerable daffodil may be passionate and intensive experience. They can confess you in eternal love and tell about how you need. Although we all like to feel valuable, you can simultaneously feel completely indispensable for your partner - there is a conflict between words and actions. Your partner may refrain from love and attention and fall into irritation if you disagree with everything he says. They can act with such phrases as "I know that you really don't love me," if I don't need you, let's break up "to encourage you to retreat and do what they want. In other words, they will emotionally manipulate you by various secretive ways.
In the balance of parting
Vulnerable daffodils are so sensitive to criticism that any of your word in conflict can upset them to such an extent that they will receive an emotional outbreak - even when the comment was absolutely fair and justified. At first, women like the manifestation of emotions, since in their head it is equal to the discerning from the man. Oh, how are they mistaken ... After some time in such a relationship you will be inclined to be censored everything that you say not to risk such an excessive reaction. This reaction is not an indicator of healthy relationships - in communicating with a normal man you can be sincere and not be afraid that any of your phrases will be taken close to heart.