"Treat drug addiction only comprehensively!"
Alina Maksimovskaya, Officer of the Social Service "Clene" with NarcodispeanSer No. 12. This unique, the only service in Moscow is engaged in the so-called "social accompaniment". A not so easy to get into the drug hospital, it will not work in one day. And here is the task of Alina - to reduce this time to a minimum.
- The usual reaction of parents when they see that their child uses: "We need doctors and droppers!" It is believed that after the hospital, a person everything will be fine. But only with medical methods it is impossible to solve the problem! The disease is a complex, complex, and it is necessary to treat it only in comprehensive: Detox, rehabilitation, postureahalitational counseling, group "Anonymous drug addicts", work with a psychotherapist.
- And where should I start?
- If parents, then you need to find any free anonymous telephone - now "hot lines" is among each drug transison. Suppose you notice that something happens - in the house things disappear, some kind of symptomatics, but a person denies everything. And you need to refer to the specialists and understand what is happening. Well, the most dependent must be understood - whether he has a desire to be treated.
- How many state drug treatment institutions in Moscow?
- Three narcological hospitals - MNPC Narcology ("Ninestone", Hospital No. 19), Hospital № 17 and its branch in Annino. There is a rigor, in fact, one - with MNPs narcology. To get to the rehabilitation without passing first detoxification is impossible.
If you decide to go to the hospital, be prepared for a bureaucratic machine - you need to collect documents. Set next.
For residents of Moscow. Passport or reference, replacing it. Without a passport, you will not be taken for treatment. Next: Polis or temporary sheet with a number that will be filled with it. The direction from a narcologist (but in MNPC drugs, you can come "Self" and write a statement right there). The results of analyzes for syphilis and HIV - from an anonymous office are not accepted! Fluorogram or discharge from the card with the results of the last survey. But, in principle, now in narcological hospitals there is an opportunity to make fluorography.
If there is abscess or traces of recent surgical intervention - a certificate of a surgeon that there are no contraindications for hospitalization. If the woman is pregnant - a certificate from the gynecologist, that hospitalization is not contraindicated (but most likely they will not take a pregnancy). If there is HIV, a painted therapy scheme is needed if a person is already on medicines. By the way, with HIV now take in any stage - even recently there were restrictions.
If you have no Moscow registration, let's say you are from the Moscow region. In addition to the listed documents, you need t. N. "Pink Coupon" - Direction from the Moscow Department of Health. To do this, take the direction from your narcologist, and then contact the Moscow narcological hospital and take a statement there that you need help, and there it is ready to provide. And with this, everyone goes to the Department of Health.
Narcology does not take: without documents, with temperature and chronic diseases: diabetes, ulcer. Pregnant women.
- All this is necessary to get to the detox. And how much does it last?
- 21-28 days. Then the person theoretically falls into rehabilitation. In the meantime, a person is undergoing treatment, it is necessary to work with relatives. And this is much more complicated than those depending on themselves. It happens in the family the topic of drugs is so closed that it is ashamed even for information in the dispensary to go. ... Double standards system: alcoholism - normally, addiction - shameful.
- Is it really possible to collect all these papers?
- A large percentage of dependent does not reach the hospital because of their absence. These documents are definitely important. But if you collect them yourself, it will take at least three days - vacation, unacceptable day, just do not immediately give out a piece of paper. And in the life of the dependent in three days anything can occur - arrest, overmose, emotional breakdown, just changed his mind. Especially if this is a person who recently freed and has no documents. Drug addious person without any help is difficult to go through this whole path. But in our "ash" there is an accompaniment service - the social worker will help to collect documents, to make analyzes, he literally leads a person to the hospital.
Our Blue Dream is to create a system of such social accompaniment covers in Moscow by the type "single window". Then the number of people who received drug treatment, really increased.
"To look at yourself honest and be nearby"
The Irina daughter does not use drugs for 4 years. Irina herself goes to groups for parents of drug addicts "Nar-Anon", too, 4 years. Like any parent, she believed that it was necessary to start with the search for a rehabilitation center for her daughter. But it turns out, it was necessary to start with myself.
- What should I do and what typical mistakes make parents? And then there is no algorithm - when I think about myself when I listen to others, I understand that everyone has a different way. But as I study honestly look at myself and my life, it becomes more clear to me.
- What is it - "honestly watch"?
- Many will not even understand what it means. I was also in denial, and I, like other relatives of the dependent, it was incomprehensible. It seemed to me that help was to do something, as a rule, for a person. And you have to be close to him, and not do everything for him.
... at the very beginning, when I found out about the dependence of my child, she told me: "Mom, don't you see that all this is visibility?" She meant our life with her. And I needed many years to look at my life and our relationship and recognize: Yes, much was visibility. I have not noticed for a long time what it was impossible not to notice, I pretended that everything was "even more or less." Later I was surprised when my daughter confessed: "Yes, mom, I was sure that I would get everything from my hands!"
The daughter then lay in the rehabilitation center, but truly our relationship began to improve, only when I honestly looked at my worldview, behavior and recognized that I didn't allow my daughter to grow up myself, always sought to raise straws, to reduce problems. And, of course, it was evil that I considered good. ... And now I see cases when parents give money on drugs, they themselves get them and say: "He will die without it." The agony of the disease continues, and the parents sabeize their behavior, too, thinking that they do good ... I am bitterly I see that they, like me before, in a dead end, do not know what to do.
Therefore, it is very important to recruit as much information about this disease as possible, about how it affects the behavior of the dependent and on those who are near.
As I learned to look at myself honestly, everything began to improve. After the revenge, the daughter had a very long depression, it was very difficult time. I then studied in a new way to be near (without control, guardianship, dictate, manipulations, etc.), listen, to see, to speak honestly. For example, on the topic "Why do you live?". It was not easy for me. But sincerity, heat, understanding was returned to our relationship. For me, this is a big joy.
And now, when some problems have some problems, she shares them, and I listen carefully to her, empathize, but I do not impose with help and I'm not trying to take them on myself. Of course, she decides, how she is at the moment it turns out. But it's like everyone else. There is a growing up. A person begins to respect himself, he is happy that he has something to do, from the feeling of his strength of a person who lives consciously.
- Are there any formulated advice to parents?
- Yes, of course, there is. I try to always remember them, they help me very much. They are called: "What to do and what not to do?"
- Try to always meet any addicts to the addict to ask for help.
- Remember that you need to search and see good in other people and in yourself.
- Do not take the guilt for the actions of other people.
- Do not quit, do not argue, do not read the morality and do not remember past miscarriage errors (and other people).
- Do not try to protect, cover or save the drug addict from the consequences.
- Do not reduce your self-esteem and do not be a cloth that legs wipe.
- Remember that addiction is a disease, and not moral failure.
- And visit the self-help groups for relatives?
- Yes. "Start the program of recovery not from the consuming drugs, but by yourself. Visit the Nar-Anon groups and learn to help the drug addict constructively. "
When for some reason I could not or did not want to go to the group, I told myself: here you are not a chemically dependent person, but you do not go to the group. How can you wait for a chemically dependent person to seek recovery?! And this (always!) It helped me to overcome laziness, unwillingness, despondency, apathy. All connected.
- Is it easy to "not take responsibility"?
- Anxiety is harmful. I chased negative thoughts all the time instead of remembering that both I had and my child had his own way. I disturbed anxiety terribly. I thought everything: "What if something happens!" But it happened anyway. So, anxiety did not help.
- Parents may not understand you: how is it to stop worrying?
- There must be time to realize your errors. And they have very deep roots. Many many groups remember how it was in their own families, as they were dependent on their parents.
- And you remember what they themselves were 4 years ago?
- Yes, I remember very well. Full crushing, despair, loneliness, pain, a terrible feeling of trouble and guilt ... I remember it every time I see a person who came to the group for the first time. But, as they say, "there is no misfortune that could not be eased, and there is no situation that it could not be improved." From the bottom of my heart I want to share the hope with those who need help! You are not alone, and you will definitely find it!