All children love to play, but no one likes to clean the toys behind them. Some parents still have to make everyone dolls and cars in the basket, others do not make it make it - the kids begin to capricious, so adults are easier to do everything on their own. Want to change the situation? We offer you some tips recommended by psychologists how to teach a child to order.
Show on your example
If you are used to raking garbage into the angle, fold into the closet of crumpled things, then do not be surprised that the child will do the same. Of course, we exaggerate to emphasize that the child mirror reflects the behavior of the parent. Psychologists say that the best way to change the behavior of a child is to change yourself. It is important to pronounce your actions regardless of the age of the child. If your baby is 1-2 years old, say: "Mom folds toys into place so that the room is clean and beautiful." In a conversation with a teenager, it is better to emphasize that order in the room affects the productivity of studies and comfort.
Do not remove toys themselves
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Get out together
Collective spirit pushes to activities. You can start vacuuming the floor, and the child is offered to wipe dust and pour flowers. Gradually increase the "load", change the type of activity. So it will be easier for him to get used to the fulfillment of duties around the house. However, some children like more, when specific duties are fixed behind them - to carry out garbage, wash the dishes or iron underwear. In no case do not stimulate the children to work with money or permission to go for a walk. Otherwise, they will be accustomed to someone to give them a "bonus" for any activity that in real adult life is impracticable. Let the help of the child be based on personal responsibility and desire to help parents.
The only thing possible to apply is an analogue of the tracker habits. Place the sheet horizontally and draw on the cells of the same size, sign the dates. In the cells corresponding to the dates, glue the stickers if the child helps with cleaning. Suggest him to do it yourself, usually kids such classes like.
Do not resort to extreme measures
Threats, reproaches and throwing personal belongings on the floor - not the best measures to upbringing. Children are sensitive, especially at an early age. Violating their personal boundaries, you will not become another, but the enemy. Who said the parent is the leader? Be a mentor and assistant, then you will receive a positive return from the child. The threats in the style "will now come dad, and I will tell you everything," according to psychologists, they form fear in the initial stages, and later - neglect and disrespect when he in adolescent age begins to realize his independence.
The child must get used to the thought that you need to clean at home
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Praise before others
Agree with relatives and family friends that they will focus on what is the ideal cleanliness in the house when they come to visit. And you playing them, you will answer that the child helps you with cleaning. Believe me, it will be nice. Yes, and praise from the people he loves and respects, will be an additional incentive to continue to keep order in the room.
We hope that our advice will help you instill a useful habit. Be stubborn, then everything will turn out. Gradually, the child will get used to the thought that it is necessary to clean the room in the room - his duty that needs to be regularly performed.