Imagine that you spent a lot of time on a dating site and finally found a person with whom you wanted to meet. It seems nothing will spoil this perfect day, however, we often ruin the nascent relationships. An expert, psychologist Ekaterina Fadeeva, tells about the main mistakes on the first date.
The first date is the first late
The easiest way to make a negative first impression is to make a person sit alone, waiting for you for a long time. If circumstances have developed so that lateness is inevitably, then cancel the meeting, if not later, or at least warn your partner as soon as possible, what to delay for so many minutes. And be sure to apologize! Sometimes the problem can be solved by posting a place or meeting time, but it is important to take care of it in advance.
Researchers from University College London found out that people tend to wait for their interlocutor against a little bit of their interlocutor if he once informed them about their delay. If he comes earlier than the promised time, then his partner will be even nice.
Try not to be late
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Wrong selection of place to date
If your interlocutor turns out to be a vegetarian and there are no appropriate dishes in the restaurant, then the date will definitely be spoiled. Specify your partner's preference in advance. If there are any restrictions, you immediately will tell about it.
Also worth paying attention to feedback. If there are no, it is better not to risk and choose another place to meet.
In addition, it will not be necessary to clarify whether during your date in the restaurant any events, concerts, etc. otherwise, a quiet and peaceful place may unexpectedly turn into a karaoke or a stedap platform. And finally, the latter, but no less important rule, the table must be booked in advance.
Leave your problems at home
Your main task on the first date is cute and positive. If you constantly complain about something, whether it is a job, a family, a dog, etc., you will create an image of the forever displeased person. The men concern primarily: if a strong sex representative verbally positions itself as a victim of circumstances, then the girl dies the last hope of happiness with him. If you do not have to abstract from your difficulties, then you will wait for a more suitable moment for a date.
Do not respect the service personnel?
Nothing annoying so much and does not make blush, as a companion who is rude to waiters. If you do not like the service, you should not make loud comments and especially someone to insult. This is especially true of men: they allow such errors most often. Try to reduce everything to a joke, relax and do not pay attention.
If the former you do not leave
Past relations are a forbidden topic, especially for the first date. It's not necessary to respond about your former, nor good: In both cases, the likelihood is that the conversation will negatively affect your new relationships. The ideal option is not to affect this topic at all or if it is not possible to avoid it, respond to all the questions to be neutral and try to change the subject of the conversation as soon as possible.
Set your smartphone
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Instagram annoys most
Do not take a look from the smartphone screen throughout the whole date, you show disrespect for your partner. Set aside the gadget away: you still have time to check Instagram and answer all messages. If you are waiting for an important call that cannot be missed, warned about it in advance.
Monologue: You are not on the interview
Take a look at yourself: if you only talk about your problems, interests and hobbies, then soon the interlocutor becomes boring. And if you start to list your achievements, then it will be unpleasant to him: self-painting does not make you attractive and causes only rejection. Communication implies not monoological speech, but a dialogue, that is, a verbal exchange, in which interlocutors are involved in a more or less equal degree. A person who speaks only about himself creates an impression of a egoist who is not capable of relations based on mutual respect.
Work is most important
On the first date is not worth building a businessman who cannot live a minute without an important call or messages. If you really need to talk on the phone, apologize and go aside.
Do not overdo it with alcohol
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Last glass was superfluous
There is nothing horrible on the first date than a drunken satellite. Know the measure and do not exceed it. Inxication comes unnoticed: a second ago, you laughed at ridiculously and walked witty, and now it is hardly offering the name of your interlocutor. If you feel that another glass of wine will be superfluous, stop and book water.
Avoid these bad manners, and then the second date will certainly take place.