Today I received a message from one of our readers, which describes the prehistory and sleep, having disked after. I bring in an example and event and sleep to reflect the relationship between the reality and the reflection of this in the unconscious. That's what happened:
"My lover yesterday suggested walking around midnight. The meeting took place very strange. The conversation was cut into what he said that he was convinced that it was impossible to trust anyone, but it was his lesson that would tell less. He said that I am engaged in violence and too breaking his borders and climb too in his life. And violence is that I am so building a conversation and questions that he told me about himself always very personal and intimate things, which, according to him, he did not tell anyone. When I tried to find out, but what happened, from where the idea about violence was received, the answer was received that I was again climbing, I ask questions instead of simply "accepting information." He said that I was too climbing in the life of another person. I got the impression that he was just someone about me told me when I discussed it, and even there is a suspicion who. The conversation again returned to the fact that he is a lesson that people cannot be trusted, but at the same time he is not angry with me and also applies.
In general, I fell asleep, losing this situation in my head, and with a desire to get an answer what happened. Sleep dreamed like this:
"I'm going with two classmates to go to the cinema, we buy tickets, but by going to the cinema hall, which is on the second floor, we find that there is a repair. I am talking about what you need to go to the floor above that the movie moved there. Having entered through, construction and climbing the stairs on the third floor, I find a cinema in the outdoor. There is only a screen, seats are not, around also repair, construction, and the screen is located on a small distance from the platform from which you can watch the movie - the screen hangs. Having passed on the edge of this platform, I neatly sit down on a dirty stone shop. The film is already coming to this point. At this moment I wake up with anger on a guy for yesterday's strange night conversation. "
Now we are not interested in reasoning who is right, and who is not. And the lover of this woman, who accused her in his coarse interference in his secrets, which he does not tell anyone.
Interestingly other. Perhaps a part of you sympathized with the heroine: she fell into an awkward situation, someone for her back needed. And now she can not protect themselves, and her lover rudely behaves in relation to her, makes a claim, angry. Agree, it is easy to present this situation in this perspective.
And at night she sees a dream, as someone's hands, everything is ordered, what to see the movie she can only in the fragments of the cinema and solid repair. In other words, the dream reflects her how she perceives reality: she is not to blame, someone destroyed, someone began repairing someone brought a mess and dirt, and she, a poor thing, forced to put up and cope with it. Just as in a conversation with a lover. She immediately suggested that someone had slandered her behind her back, and now the guy is unfortunately angry. And she does not understand at all what he tells her about. Perhaps she should not agree with this claim. But the point is in the other. Sleep reflects her Manera: look for the source of what happened with her outside. Someone accused, the guy expresses unreasonable claims. All the range is to blame, but it has nothing to do with it. Instead of admitting that she creates such relations with his lover, in which he speaks of a threat, distrust of it. Perhaps this is this manner and repels her man, creates distrust and desire to protect himself and details of his personal life.
Maria Dyachkova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazin