Most of us work in the team, but, unfortunately, not in every office atmosphere has to communicate and friendship. Permanent gossip, the nervous faces of colleagues can cause serious harm to the psyche. And no one is insured against pressing and bulling in the team. But what to do, if you still became the object of psychological persecution? We tried to figure out.
Less contacts
As a rule, Buller tries to bring you to the conflict by all means, and it is possible to do it only with a frequent contact. It all starts with a small one: first the aggressor violates your personal space, trying to get up with you "for one level", for example, referring to you on "you", although a person can communicate with the rest of his colleagues. As soon as you notice similar moments, try to transfer all communication in a written form, as you fail to completely abandon contact - you still work in one company and, perhaps in one department. In addition, in the event of a further disrespectful tone, you will have physical evidence in the form of screenshots of your correspondence.
Keep yourself in your hands
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Do not closure to yourself
Most often, the grass is tightened and gains momentum if the victim is silent and does not take any action. It is clear that it is not always so easy to confess that you have such a problem in the team, although in fact the situation is very serious. If you understand that it is no longer able to endure such an appeal or toxic relationships with the Buller counterpart interfere with the efficiently performing their work, not a bag consult a guide. In the event that the boss is inactive, explain the situation to the upstream manual.
Do not give in to provocations
As we said, it is very important for Buller to achieve emotions from you (of course, negative), and therefore it will wait for the moment when you find yourself in the most supportive state. You should always have this in mind and be prepared for the fact that when communicating with this person, you need to get together and keep yourself in your hands, even if you want to cling to the throat. Do not deliver the aggressor of such pleasure.
You are not the cause of the bulling
Psychologists often suggest that some people keep a victim of behavior throughout life, which is why such a person is constantly experiencing pressure from all sides. However, it is necessary to understand what you would not be a person, especially in the case when you yourself are not trying to climb on the Rogger, it can not be an excuse for such behavior towards you. Remember how colleagues were treated in previous work, if there were no cases of aggression in your side, this is another proof that something is wrong with your current team.
Act without delay
When you find yourself only at the "first level" of Heit, you can not even pay attention to the fact that the colleague is extremely recently joked in your direction, made an indecent remark and everything in such a spirit. It seems that it is better to just go, do not create a conflict situation. In fact, you only dislinee the offender. If you fight back without delay, the degree of desire to pursue you will continue to go further, and perhaps the aggressor will change with you to communicate with you, because you can stand up for yourself.