A rather large percentage of people believes that the presence of a partner will relieve the oppressive sense of loneliness. However, when the desired person appears in life, it turns out, everything is not so simple and a sense of loss may not just do not leave, but also intensify. We decided to figure out why this happens and is it possible to do something about it.
Be more decisive
The longer you "grow" a destructive feeling inside yourself, the sooner your psyche will fail, no one knows what it will happen - this can be like a nervous breakdown and care in deep depression. Almost any problem within the relationship can be solved, sowing at the negotiating table. It is quite rare so that alienation in a pair is experiencing only one of the partners, most likely your second half also feels discomfort. Explain their feelings, together you will be much easier to find solutions.
Your relationship is your personal experience.
A huge impact on relationship is provided by society, and especially the social networks. In the ribbon we see friends, acquaintances and media personalities who tell how their union is beautiful with a partner. All this, let we not realize it, affects our perception of their own relations. It may begin to seem that the second half is some wrong and does not pay so much time as "the perfect Tanin man, about which she tells in every post." Stop shifting other people's images to yourself, you do not know how true the words of your girlfriend or the next star in relationships, you must concentrate on your union, remember all the positive points that you experienced together, and as for problems in understanding, solve them as We talked earlier by communicating with your man.
Do not keep unpleasant feelings
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You do not have common interests.
Yes, find an ideal partner and at the same time - like-minded man, not easy. It is especially difficult to couples where a man and a woman work in completely different areas and their interests cannot cross. In this case, we are working on what is, namely, trying to find points to contact those hobbies that you already have. Suppose your man is crazy about the tricks on nature, and you are a fitness fan. When both partners are skeptical of the second half, conflicts arise and the emotional alienation with which we have to deal with. Try to open a new one and plunge into the passion of your partner a little, and offer him to do the same. Suppose, once a month in the summer you can go to nature together, and a man can visit the gym several times a month, choosing at least one simulator. However, it is necessary to show interest sincerely, crossing themselves, you are just experiencing even greater stress.
We accept partners
At the very beginning of the relationship, while we are blinded by a light feeling, it seems that the partner simply cannot have flaws. Everything changes when the paddle falls and you start knowing your chosen one closer. In this case, unpleasant moments can be revealed, which you did not guess. It is important to understand that your man is the same person with its advantages and minuses, the fact that he is not able to understand you with a half-word does not mean that he is not able to make you a couple in strong alliance. The idealization of a person always turns around with bitter disappointment, you go to yourself, it seems to you that you do not understand, but in fact you simply were not ready for the "opening": it turns out that he has its drawbacks. Try to accept a person as it is, attempts to remake the character and change the habit only to conflict.