You live yourself calmly and suddenly understand: it's time to start a child. No, it does not happen. Even if you are increasingly visiting the idea of the continuation of the kind, this does not yet mean that you are time to expand your family. However, experts insist that there are certain signs that will give an answer to the question, or not.
Strong relationships
It may be trite, but the child must have two parents. Whatever the mother's mother and all sorts of "experts" on behalf of all women of the world - a full-fledged person can contemporary only in a full family. Of course, there are different circumstances why the child stays with one of the parents, we are talking about situations when women are egoistic to give birth for themselves, or any other situations that depend solely from a woman. It is especially difficult for boys who, as it happens in incomplete families, grow surrounded by women. They do not see the authority, the man to be equal to. It remains to know the world of men outside the house, which postpones the fingerprint on the psyche of the child.
Therefore, if you live alone or are on the verge of a break with a partner, think three times, whether you want to make life like your child, which at least before graduation will get a question: "Where is your father?"
After birth, the child will remain with you for life
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Lack of mercenary purposes of unreasonable childcare requirements
The decision to start a child should be made on the basis of the desires of both partners, and not as a consequence of the pressure of the surrounding or second partner. If you use a child as a means of manipulation, a method of enrichment or are going to give birth in order to provide yourself with a free servant in old age, you better abandon this idea. The child feels in the womb, he is welcome or not. Ultimately, no one will be happy from such an outcome - neither you nor your future son or daughter.
Changing lifestyle
Oddly enough, but not everyone understands what a big responsibility falls on the shoulders of parents. The child can not be returned or give away somewhere if he started to disturb you. You are brought to the light of a new person who will stay with you for life, or at least always will remind yourself.
Obviously, people who are not quite correct, and sometimes a dangerous lifestyle, will have to return the values and arrange new priorities.
You need to be prepared that with the advent of the baby, your and the life of your partner will change in the root. For the first few years, you completely devote yourself to care for a child, after which you will raise it for a very long time. Something of your interests will go to the background, not everyone is ready to put up with such a turn of events.
Think if you can provide his needs
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Financial wealth
Probably one of the most important points. Many people neglected, and very in vain. The child is one of the most expensive moments in family life. Think whether you are ready to give the lion's share of the budget for the needs of the baby. Care in the first years of life, all sorts of mugs, sections, preparatory classes, school needs, training at the institute, etc. We will not talk about the basic needs of food, clothes and comfortable accommodation.
If you are in constant stress, solve this problem to pregnancy
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Sustainable mental state of parents
First of all, this refers to the mother, because it is with her a child associated with the beginning to the very end of her life. In the process of the development of the embryo, the main functions are laid and the nervous system of the fetus is developing. What it will be directly depends on the state of the mother. Perhaps you noticed on the streets of writhing children and the moms who are not lagging behind them. It is clear that a woman with a disturbed psyche is unlikely to be born a completely calm child.
If you are in a state of temporary stress, it is better to postpone with pregnancy to better times.