Conflicts are an integral part of our daily life. It is difficult to imagine that even in the happiest and harmonious family did not happen conflicts, albeit purely for domestic issues. At the same time, in some families they boil "Italian passions", but they remain strong and such marriages last decades, and even even the most innocent conflicts almost instantly lead to the divorce.
In fact, family conflicts always have their reasons. Most often, they are only the top of the iceberg of mutual adversity and contradictions. If in traditional societies, family culture was regulated by age-old customs, religious standards, now families are created by people with completely different education, cultural levels, different models of domestic behavior. Many of the marriage already have the experience of previous family life or cohabitation, which almost always guarantees the presence of some established stamps and stereotypes, relative to the desired scenarios of behavior in the family and everyday life.
The first and main condition for the prevention of family conflicts is the openness of the spouses to each other and mutual respect. Hidden resentments, lies, constant discontent with actions and even the personality of the second spouse - the first step towards the aggravation of conflict situations and, ultimately, or to dissolve the marriage and breakdown of the family, or to the transformation of marriage relations into formality, fiction in which spouses are actually turning into Neighborhoods for general housing, and not in the closest people of people.
When some problem appears in the family, the most reasonable thing that the spouses can make is to quietly discuss it, without mutual reproaches, insults and transition to individuals. Imagine that we solve the problem that arose at work - in a company or public institution: adequate colleagues will never break into a cry and mutual insults. According to the same scheme, problems should be discussed in the life of each family: financial belonging to raising children and even intimate. Having learned to openly talk to each other truth, listen to each other and understand each other, you can avoid many conflicts and save the family from destruction.
Of course, a very important factor is the ability to empathy in both spouses. If there is no empathy, then the full, sincere communication is impossible: one spouse simply cannot imagine himself in the place of another spouse and feel all that his marriage partner feels.
The ability to work on oneself, the desire to improve both their personality and their relationship with the spouse / spouse is the following important way to prevent family conflicts. Unfortunately, most spouses adheres to the position of pressure on the second spouse to change it and make their rules of the game, but does not apply this position to themselves. Meanwhile, such behavior is "mini slow motion" under the foundation of interpersonal relations in marriage or cohabitation. It is necessary not only to expect any changes for the better from its second half, but also to change the most (herself), revealing their negative actions and seeking to minimize them. If one spouse adheres to a purely selfish model and requires it to take it as it is, then conflict situations will be inevitable and such a family will turn into the cohabitation of people ever-opposing each other.
We must understand that an open dialogue, empathy and willingness to listen and respect the partner are the main basics of happy family life, the conflicts in which may be present, but will not have destructive potential.