Difficulties in relations arise not only because partners disagree goals and views on basic questions. It is also difficult to those who do not coincide behavioral models. For example, a girl from the experience of past relations used to be "mom" for a man - cook food, choose clothes, control the mode of the day, and he does not want excessive guardianship. In order for you talk to your beloved person about what model is accepting, released a new test - answer questions and share the answers in the comments below.
First become friends
1. You came to the grocery store for food for a joint dinner, which will take the first thing?
A. What is like a favorite person - is the time to try out a new recipe for quarreling, which read out on the Internet.
B. Write his favorite products - Excellent efficiency to arrange a film on the bed.
B. More vegetables, berries and fruits - the first thing is to take care of health.
2. Your man is delayed at work. What do you do?
A. I'll wait for it, and then the call to a serious conversation - let him know that it is impossible to disappear without warning.
B. I will not say anything, I'll just be offended - let it goes now what happened.
V. I will analyze his day and think why he actually delayed, maybe it does not want to go home?
3. You have long dreamed of a dog, but everything does not decide to buy. And suddenly see the announcement of the sale of a cute puppy of the breed you wanted. What do you do?
A. I will refuse to buy - it is irrational, because the apartment we have small, and money on a dog can be spent more reasonably.
B. Be sure to buy it! I will bring home and wait for your loved one when we together with the dog we will look at it with puppy eyes.
Q. I remember that my man has a child injury on dogs or allergies - you need to think about us two, and not just about me.
4. You have started monthly, and you were going to go for a weekend for the city in a bath complex. What do you do?
A. We will drink tablets to move the cycle, and Warning a partner - you need to control this question.
B. I arrange him hysteria and I will not go anywhere. Is it really not convinced that I feel good before to book a sauna?
V. I am glad to tell him, I will go and will sit in a rest room. He wanted to go to the sauna so much, I can not disrupt his plans.
5. You are traveling with your loved on the car, as he suddenly says that he is tired. Do you have rights and you inscribed in his insurance, sit down for the wheel?
A. Yes, because he also needs to sleep, and I love to drive.
B. Why! I am much more interesting to read the book than to strain and follow the road.
Q. I remember how last time he was tired, and we almost drove into a pillar. Perhaps it's time to sit behind the wheel ...
make marriage before addressing such important issues is not worth
More A. Parent. You appreciate the opportunity to take care of your loved one, showing your emotions through the preparation of his favorite dishes, care about how he feels and slept, and other things. Such an attachment is explained at the beginning of the relationship, but in the long term it may depreciate: a person will get used to your attachment and will cease to notice all the good that you prevent into your interaction. Understand that the partner is important to remain adults: to independently make decisions, guided by your desires and listen to yourself. This is not egoism, but a normal life position. So, open it access to oxygen, and sighed with complete breasts.
More B. Child. Dear gifts, new impressions, little pranks are something, without which it is difficult for you to live. To shook or play on other people's nerves - isn't it right enough around? No, not all girls arrange men scene - playing on the emotions of people who love you do not make sense. Forget about the rules and live in consent with the partner, in order to first become friends, and then share the role of the princess and its conqueror.
More V. Psychologist. How many times did you get in the situation when we became a vest for crying? If the losers come from time to times, who justify the vitality of life troubles with their bad luck, and not laziness, it means that you are. We attract such people who are appropriate. Stop being an energy donor for those who could not disassemble their problems with the therapist. Look for a partner with whom you will be comfortable, and not on whom you can practice your ability to bring a person from apathy.
If you did not come up with the options for answers, congratulations - you most likely have a healthy psyche, and you can be in relationships on equal. The test is cognitive and is aimed at making you think about problems in relationships. A complete picture in the presence of problems can be made only at consultation with the therapist.