When communicating with a person who is sympathetic to us, our behavior can differ significantly from the usual. Not surprising, because the heart knocks faster, the palms sweat, the most obvious things fly out of the head. Sometimes it is just a side effect of love, and sometimes the reason can go completely in another.
For many centuries in a row, women prescribed certain requirements and norms of behavior, without complying with which it was difficult to find a satellite of life. Now the times have changed, but subconsciously a woman compares himself with the classical idea of society about what a perfect girl, wife, mother should be. With any inconsistency, anxiety and doubts appear inside.
The attitude of a man depends on you
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The psychologist Maria Kadyukova explains that a woman can be nervous when communicating with a man for several reasons:
1. Unstable self-esteem. When the girl does not have a clear positive attitude towards himself, it projects her doubts on a young man. A man refers to a woman as it allows it to do. If she does not respect himself, then you should not expect something else.
2. Last negative experience of communication with the opposite sex. There is such a concept as "psychological trauma". If the woman was in a relationship in which she had to suffer a lot, then negative emotions could not digest to the end. Because of this, romantic relationships are associated with a negative and start something new scary.
3. There are not enough familiar relations in the family. If, in his entire life, the girl did not see in his family a trusting relationship between relatives, it would be difficult for her to believe that she would be different. Especially important relationship with the Father, understanding its value in his life.
4. Attitude towards yourself. Sometimes the girl does not know his strengths and weaknesses and therefore all the time waiting for an hour from the outside. If a woman does not consider himself a valuable initially, simply because it is as it is, she will "earn" value in the eyes of others. Missed me, take it, make me important - these senders will be hidden behind nervousness.
Think of your virtues
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Maria gives several recommendations to help feel more confident:
1. Examine yourself. Try to reveal your advantages, learn how to make shortcomings. You need to understand your value.
2. Props, how do you see your perfect man and how it should treat you. This will help you understand your needs, deal with the principles and values.
3. Treat yourself as you want to treat you surrounding. It is very important. You show your attitude to yourself how you can and need to communicate.
4. Separate their communication with family (and the Father in particular) from the rest of the world. Your guy is not dad. With your young man, relationships will be asked as you want, regardless of the relationship between your relatives. Remember that the guy is your choice.
5. Confidence appears when we love ourselves. What girl would you fall in love with? In the one that wears silk dresses and caniledly laughs when she flies? Or in the one that loves to look at the stars and is massive sweaters? Fall in love to become more confident. And you do not have to be nervous when communicating with men.
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