The situation itself is terrible, because the child comes to this world, in advance knowing that he is not expected, as a result - all his life he will feel the lack of maternal love. Of course, the role of the Father is almost also significant for the newborn, however, the mood of the mother affects the further existence of a child.
Situations that lead to the emergence of unwanted children:
The child is absolutely not guilty of your difficult situation.
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- Unplanned pregnancy at an early age or by chance.
- Strong hatred of the child's father.
- Bad material support.
However, this list is not limited, we selected only the most common options.
The fact is that not everyone distinguishes the concept of "unwanted child" from unplanned: the second has more chances of love from the parents, because by the end of pregnancy, the woman tries to accept the situation with the situation, and the maternal feelings do not give her to treat the future child Negative.
How does the life of a unwanted child
According to many scientists, all the pregnancy, up to the moment of birth and sometimes after them, can be divided into steps. For example, from the moment of conception and before childbirth, the child is in a state of a certain euphoria, but only if the mother already loves his yet born baby. Perhaps you noticed how future moms talk to the belly in the later timing? Such children grow up with a stable psyche and can enjoy life.
In the back of the situation, the child's born will constantly feel anxious feeling, sharply respond to criticism, constantly feel the feeling of guilt. Several options: either its aggression will be directed inside itself or on others. Such a person will be difficult to build the future.
Encourage its development, it will be grateful to you
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What if you feel rejection to the child
During pregnancy, the woman is experiencing a large number of stress. In addition to instincts, some wisdom is laid in us: the woman clearly realizes that you need to love this child. The life that develops in it is already part of it. The detention has not yet born child, thereby denies himself. Now think if you can live with hate? In addition, the child is absolutely nothing to blame for anything, it is not necessary to transfer the negative qualities of others on it, as you think, guilty in your difficult situation of people.
Cut together as much time as possible
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How to love the child
No one is born by the parent, they can only become. You must understand that love can come only after constant communication and know each other - you and your child.
What is needed for this:
- Learn to listen and understand what the child tells you.
- Learn to communicate correctly: no physical and emotional violence! So you do not build a trusting relationship.
- It is necessary to promote the development of both personal and mental development in every way.
The child should feel that he is appreciated and respected, only then he will also treat you and have a gratitude all life.