The older our parents become, the alarmer is our attitude to their health, well-being, an optimistic confusion for life. The more often we hear the sighs of fatigue and gravity, the stronger the heart beats in a gravitant waiting for an imminent separation with them forever. Below I want to bring an example of a dream to our readers. She herself is already an adult woman, she has children, grandchildren. And somewhere far lives her old mother, who is increasingly complaining of daughters on his health, at old age, for the fact that they are tired. He tells her how to represent his death, how to behave after it comes, to do with property. Increasingly waiting for meetings and how her daughter will come to visit her, because each meeting can be the last. And our dreamy is increasingly visiting his mother, often calls. One can only represent what kind of dark states and thoughts visit both on the eve of the meeting, during, and then during periods of separation.
I do not accidentally consider this context, since without him we will not be able to understand the meaning of the dream of our dreams. Here is the dream, seeing the daughter of this old woman: "My neighbors asked me to pour their flowers. I'm trying to go to them in an apartment and understand with horror that I can go to them in an apartment, just moving over the abyss through the balcony. Nevertheless, I do it enough enough. Then I water the flowers and I think how they themselves come to the apartment. A mother lives in it with her son-teenager. I think about how she risks his life so much, and then - and the life of the Son to get into the apartment. And then I understand that they do not risk anything, in the apartment for a son and the hostess there is a separate safe passage. But I can get out only on the balcony. And I feel in horror and trap. I wake up on it. "
Against the background of permanent background experiences of her life, sleep seems transparent. Every time the communication of the mother and his daughter is the transition over the abyss, over the abyss, it's like to look at the inevitability of the death of the mother, and then - and its own. It is scary, it pierces to goosebumps, and at some point you can tune in philosophically. But ignore the death rate of loved ones and with age becomes more and more difficult. And the dream feels in a trap. But there is a way out for others, who else has a life ahead. Ignore the limb of being easily, while you are young, and your children are small. Therefore, her neighbor and teenage son has a secret entrance, delay in age to not peel into the abyss.
On a different attitude to death, about horror before her or accepting this fact, the magnificent book "peering in the sun" is written. Her author of Irwin Yalla, a psychotherapist, delved to study the theme of death as few people. The end point always gives meaning. Always, focusing on it, we can check how realized we lived our lives. Paradoxically, people who daring to fill their lives with meaning and significant actions are calmer than those who in the depths of the soul know how many possibilities were omitted. And at the same time, to fear their own care is normal as well as the care of loved ones. Or maybe for our dreams, this is a signal that is not late, go with my mother to a new level of love and adoption? But to solve them.
And what dreams of you? Examples of your dreams send by mail: [email protected]. By the way, dreams are much easier to express if in a letter to the editor you will write preceding life circumstances, but most importantly - feelings and thoughts at the time of awakening from this dream.
Maria Dyachkova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazin