It seems that late childbirth becomes an absolute trend of our time. Preparing to become a mother of actress Olga Cabo. Christina Orbakayte March 30 gave birth to a daughter Claudia, and Evelina Blonds April 4 - Son of Seeds. Arkady and Natalia Ukupniki, watching colleagues on the creative workshop, support them: after all, in a mature age, it is impossible to understand that children are the flowers of life.
They really all fourteen years of marriage lived with the feeling that they are good and together. Natalia and Arkady were completely dissolved in each other, almost never parting. In addition, Arcadia has already grown two children from the first marriages, and say that the question of the continuation of the genus is so seriously interested in him, it is impossible. Rather, they believed: because both are completely healthy, then on all the will from above - as it happens, and it will happen ...
Arkady Ukpnik: "I remember well the moment when Natasha reported his pregnancy. We flew to Israel to my concert - the buddy invited me to speak in Eilat on his birthday. I went to him, congratulating my own performance, and he invited us with Natasha to stay with him for a few days. We vomited four days, flew to Moscow, and a week later Natasha tells me: "Cute! In my opinion, we are in the ladies! "I first did not understand what. (Laughs.) Then she explained to me popularly that we flew to Israel together, and then flew threesome. Is it possible to forget?! "
Natalia Ukupnik: "For any woman in a successful marriage, such news is big joy. Personally, I had a feeling of happiness. You still do not know what it is, but already - euphoria and flight. "
Arkady: "The funniest that in five minutes after I heard that we will have a child, we began to discuss which school he will go where he will live. I even remember, said: "Stop, second! In my opinion, before that, far away! "But Natasha objected:" No, let's discuss everything now! "That is, from the first minute, the whole way of your life changes dramatically. You begin to think completely different categories. And it is so unusual - after all, before everything went on some other robes, all the plans were completely different. "
How did your friends react to the coming changes in the family?
Arkady: "Everyone has been congratulated. Natalia in marriage almost fifteen years old, but the Lord did not give children. Everything was not and was not, and suddenly it happened! Probably, so everyone was very happy. There was not a single person who would twist his finger at the temple. But when this news appeared on the Internet, then the comments had to read different. But this is the Internet ... "
Is there really such a moment in the negative?
Arkady: "There were very unpleasant things. But they wrote characters, absolutely unnecessary for me and absolutely nothing understanding. "
Arkady Ukupnik Photo: Personal archive of families of ukupnikov.
During the pregnancy of Natalia, you nevertheless continued to appear at secular parties. There were no superstitions on this?
Arkady: "Honestly, in this sense, the late child makes cautious. People are still different. I do not believe in any kind of damn, but listening. Therefore, we held this information as long as possible in the Security. But after all, I am a secular person, public, therefore, on a certain period, everything has become apparent. It was impossible to keep his wife locked up, in four walls! (Laughs.) After all, you can apply much greater harm to the child: if the future mother is morally suppressed and empty, it's all transmitted to the baby. Therefore, we stopped "encrypted" and calmly went to the premieres, showed our tummy with solid confidence: nothing bad just can happen! So each other was told: if everything happened to us, then everything will be fine! "
Nataliya: "It was not noticeable for quite a while I was pregnant. We hid this fact even from parents. But after all, when the joy is obvious, superstition disappear. "
Promised land
Is it because the child was conceived in Israel, did you decide and give birth there?
Arkady: "Everything happened purely emotionally. We were on the sixth month and flew to relax in May. Heat. Close. No visas. And while they rested, considered different European clinics, thought. We decided to explore the situation and in Israel. And we need to say, I really liked it. I liked everything. And approach to women in labor, and care for them, and attentive staff. We all showed, told. Yes, and the pricing policy there turned out to be sane. It is three times cheaper to give birth than in our elite clinics in which famous Russian mothers give birth. And then we thought: our child should be born at the end of July, much better and more useful to spend this time at sea in a beautiful mood, rather than in stuffy and dusty Moscow. And the positive attitude preceded by childbirth, I was sure, played an important role at the birth of a baby. True, we waited for a daughter at the end of July, but there was a delay. As a result, she was born the first zero eighth. And it is very significant. First, I was born eighteenth - too, alone and eight, secondly, we live in an eighteenth apartment, and thirdly, the first of August is the wedding day of my parents. Belief did not believe, but she was born on time. "
And childbirth passed ...
Arkady: "Everything went wonderful. I even attended childbirth with all hence the resulting. "
What kind of flowing?
Arkady : "How what? Cutting umbilical cord, child reception. I was given a daughter on my hands after a minute after she was born! All this is the sensations that I am emotionally shocked in my age. The appearance of a native creature, which after a minute I look at you with huge eyes, and it seems to you that it is smarter than you once a hundred times, is one of the most powerful impressions that I worried in my life. You just dive into this ohwood - and that's it! How to fly to space! It is not conveyed by words. "
Nataliya: "Yes, fortunately, the birth went easily. I can not complain about my own health, nor in nature or doctors. And besides, I felt the support of Arkady. He, attending childbirth, supported me, worried. And it will instill confidence that everything will be fine. The first birth is always unknown, although you read a lot and learn from the Internet ... But it's still impossible to imagine it in advance. Since Sofia is my first child, I did not know much from the process itself. It's no secret that the child appears in flour, so the expectation of these female flour, of course, scarecrow. "
Arkady Ukupnik with his wife and daughter. Photo: Personal archive of family bite.
Arkady, did you decide to attend childbirth or did Natasha asked for this?
Nataliya: "I did not ask, it was both obvious to us. Arkady planned me to support, and I really counted on his support. Therefore, the question of asking, persuaded, did not stand. "
Arkady: "Of course, we discussed this moment. What kind of sin, many women do not want the presence of their spouses in childbirth. But we decided. In addition, I understood: Natasha need me to be near. Well, in myself I was sure: I will still endure. And I did not experience any horror. "
Arkady, you already have children from previous marriages. But witnessing the appearance of a baby on the light you became for the first time?
Arkady: "Yes, previous children usually born, that is, without me. They were taken out after some time already in converters. These were other feelings. "
Aliminal child
The name of the daughter was invented when they looked into her bottomless eyes?
Nataliya: "We had the name we planned. But when the girl was born, it seemed to us that it was not suitable for her. It was a kind of test. Time was pressed. Unnamed the child from the country is impossible. Ten days passed, and there is no name and no, we called friends, parents, we advised something, but I didn't like anything. Here it began panic. We never came to any decision. On the one hand, we tried not to dwell on the disorders of various options, and on the other, the child is given a name for life. Name is a kind of fate. We wanted to call the girl so that she was proud of them. It seems to me that in the end we found a beautiful version - Sofia. We pushed out from the letter "C", because Arkady has a middle name for the letter "C". We and the first name was on this letter, but I will not disclose it to disclose it - maybe we will still take advantage of them. " (Laughs.)
Arkady Ukupnik Photo: Personal archive of families of ukupnikov.
Arkady: "Yes, with the name there was a problem. It was necessary to issue birth documents, and we could not decide. But with general efforts, by long day and night discussions, we came to a common denominator and gave the girl's name Sofia. In my opinion, beautiful! "
Arkady, your older children congratulated you with replenishment?
Arkady: "They, of course, did not expect such a turn in my life. But, naturally, we were delighted! Congratulated. "
Have you come to look at Sofia?
Arkady: "The son arrived from Germany. I met my sister. In general, I saw a little man, which he will take care of the future. Everything is fine! "
Who does the daughter look like?
Arkady (proudly) : "As they say, she's father's daughter! One of our girlfriend, looking at Sophia, said: "An alimony child!" Yes, you will not refuse. " (Laughs.)
Are you crazy parents?
Arkady: "As it turned out, I was one hundred percent crazy dad. I am fully engaged in my daughter: I bathe, wipe, I feed, walk with her. And most importantly, I am doing this with pleasure. And I will try in the coming years to devote to the child as much time as possible. "
Nataliya: "Although I essentially a calm person, I do not fall into any panic, unnecessary sublimation, but also turned out to be in some sense of a crazy mom. For example, if Sofia cries, I understand: it's not just like that, she needs something. And I do not adhere to such a point of view: they say, let him pay, then he will stop the sam. "
At your work somehow affected the appearance of the daughter?
Arkady: "Of course, it was reflected. I was a little more difficult to engage in work. But these are the first months. I am an experienced dad! (Laughs.) I understand and know what is hard for a month or another, and then ... a person gets used to everything. You were not imprisoned, not to the concentration camp. Those emotions, then pleasure, the happiness that you get, with more than replace the lack of time to work. Well, I do not have time, and we have become less than going to walk less, but we have a threesome time perfectly! We moved to live for the city. The child of us somehow "built". We lived in a city apartment for a long time, although it was possible to move to nature. As soon as they found out that Natasha was pregnant, they immediately began to repair in a country house. And with the advent of daughter moved to the suburbs. I have already fully felt all the charms of country life. She is calm there, without crazy throwing through the streets of Moscow. "
Nataliya: "It is impossible to evaluate the changes, because you live in them, you are in them. It seems that you do everything that did. But there is something unconditional. We have become more at home. We spend a lot of time with the child. At the weekend Arkady does not take any work. But usually, as you know, the life of a musician does not imply no everyday life. Now everything has changed. "
Who gets up to the baby at night?
Arkady: "Together. Or in turn. It depends!"
And how do you communicate with Sofia? Syushukate?
Arkady: "It's not sucking. I understand that it is better to talk with the child normally, as with adults, but does not come out. She is completely stunningly emotionally open girl. Very positive. Rarely crying. When wakes up, always smiles. And then, when you look and see your own reflection, how can you not suck! We are so similar that the feeling arises that I look in the mirror. "
Cradle for my daughter already wrote?
Arkady: "No, I do not take the number of those authors who see what they write. Suddenly. If this works out. But in any case, lullabies are already written, which perfectly sound. Why compete? "
If you summarize, the late children are ...
Natalia: "... This is another love, another attitude, another perception. The child's request sounds for you in a different way. Arkady dissolved completely in his daughter. I see it. And I like my wife, how mother is very nice. I hope that Sofia will appreciate the love that we give her. Children, born in mature parents, more beloved, more successful, successful. They are experiencing fewer complexes, do not perceive the aggression of the external environment, because long time is protected. "
Arkady: "When you are in fifty, then life does not seem endless. Therefore, the emergence of a native creature moves some horizons. You understand that it is not still lost that the whole life is ahead! (Smiles.) At least you have a goal. The child gives you the opportunity to build your life for some more decades ahead. You understand what should do something. Grow, raise your child. Therefore, I advise everyone: if you have the opportunity after fifty, you take the children, use it - and your life will last. And besides, you will feel yourself not a man who gradually goes somewhere in the distance, but a man who confidently goes on ascending. "