Even if you have long dreamed of finish the relationship with an unloved husband and are happy about freedom, you should still be attentive to yourself: such a serious change cannot pass easily. Our psychologists suggest how to preserve sincere equilibrium in a difficult period.
The separation process passes through certain stages that are naturally followed by one by one.
1st stage - shock (denial), or "can not be". So the body struggles with pain, denying the event already happened.
2nd stage - anger (wrath). A person is experiencing negative, often aggressive emotions in relation to the former partner. It is important here to learn how to work out this flow correctly. It is necessary to allow yourself to be angry, after throwing out emotions, writing angry letters and burn them, you can discuss the situation with friends, go to the gym, bold a boxing pear. In general, here the main principle is not closed in yourself, do not close, but to try the whole negative to pour out, preferably not on others!
3rd stage - doubts (bargaining). Couples released, time passed, and doubts start: what if, maybe if it were not ... This is the last straw between the past and the present. A person is trying to return the situation, he is engaged in self-confidence, self-evidence, it seems to him that it is possible to return everything, it is worth only to take the initiative into your hands, but attention is just an illusion! At this stage you can work with a perspective or future. You can take a piece of paper and paint: what was what was lost, which is a pity that I would like to return. And how can you return to the new situation, how to do it, what can be replaced by what you can not be returned, and is it definitely lost so important for life?
4th stage - depression. A person decides nothing to want, so that it does not hurt. Self-esteem drops sharply, productivity in work is lost confidence in all. A person can join the pain of alcohol so as not to remain one with his pain. As a rule, after a person reached the bottom of his grief, he can pumped up from him and drink upstairs. Here he can accept what happened, and say to himself: I stayed alone, but I want to live.
The 5th stage is humility (adoption). A person thanks fate, life, a partner for what was. Finds the pros in this position and in what happened, it does not feel angry, does not condemn - only then the lesson passed.
And if you have not passed all the 5 stages, they did not complete the previous relationship, and therefore, with a very high probability that your next partner will be with another person, but, in fact, the same, and you once again run in a circle, having lost time and Hope to meet "his person". So that this does not happen, find what he appeared in your life, and thank him for this lesson. And only in this case you can advance further, to a better level of relationship. Good luck!