The reason for the constant quarrel may be quite typical: we are too hard and ineptly demanding something from each other. I want him to be a master for all hands or, for example, loved to mess with the kids, and he is not at all. In such cases, "re-education" will not lead to anything good. If you have tied your life with this person in the hope of "remake", refuse intentions - take it as it is, because he has a lot of other advantages.
He does everything wrong, generally behaves as if it came. And if you talk? Maybe he just does not understand what you want from him, because it seems to you that all this goes without saying. Maybe you are silently waiting for something that is what you do not guess?
It happens that the reason for constant grinding lies not on the surface, it needs to be found. A shortage of care, tenderness can turn into a scandal about the unadled shirt or the forgotten date of the first date. Try to understand why in fact you are unpleasant to his delays at work, and your frivolous girlfriends annoy him. Perhaps it will become more understanding, and the quarrel is less.