How often do you think that life rushes past, while you don't have any strength, nor the desire to join this run? The feeling of devastation, indifference to what is happening, the inability to have fun - signs of clinical depression, which, as you know, must be treated.
Today, the fashionable word "resource" flashes not only (and not so much) in specialized literature, as in popular publications and personal blogs. He is told about the mother in the decree and media individuals, businessmen and students, big bosses and office workers. But, despite the widespread, the popular term has not found one-to-one reading in the masses of the public. So let's clarity.
gold reserve
Psychologists call the resource any action, a state or phenomenon of reality, which allows you to create, love and rejoice in a word, live a full life. With some assumption, you can put a sign of equality between the words "resource" and "potential", with the only reservation that one depends on the other. So, the more complete your psychological resource reserves, the higher your potential to resist stress, organize your life and reside it in a relative balance.
The reasons why the term "entered the people" and began to be understood by the general public, simple and understandable. In the modern world, even the most calm and conscious person every day have to face with a large number of challenges and problems, the solution of which is a monotonant routine stress, capable of working out and a Buddhist monk. Perchinchos adds a feature of our days - Life at the Instagram Rhythm. The pursuit of the displacement perfection, which must be demonstrated to the world by all means, is a very tedious occupation, which, alas, does not bring any return. And work without a result is the most costly way in the energy plan.
For some reason, we do not regret your soulful "battery" and do not care
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And so suddenly you wake up with the feeling of emptiness and powerlessness. Ordinary everyday affairs seem to be unbearable, the future causes a vague anxiety, the present does not make it please. All this signals of the so-called low charge of your inner battery. And if it were about your smartphone, you would immediately suffered the device to recharging. But for some reason, we do not regret your mental "battery" and do not care, spending it in zero.
Reset ballast
Let's start with the encouraging Westa: even the most reset and devastated organism is possible to "pump up" by the resource. But in order for the forces that we feed ourselves, did not be wasted (remember the effect of the bottomless vessel, when all the water being enlighted is due to imperceptible holes), it is necessary to get away from traumatic, disturbing and neurotic situations. Without it, it will be extremely difficult to support yourself.
So, first, we need to understand where the main part of our forces and energy goes. We give a hint: Most often we spend your precious resource on what we do not like to do. Simply put, if you get up at four in the morning, drink one cup of coffee, run running to a construction site, where drive a huge crane, returning home under the night and only time to look at the news before bedtime, but at the same time sincerely kaifuet from morning, coffee, Construction, its work and news program, such an extinguishing for other day will charge you with joy and forces. On the contrary, if you have an unwind job in the office, a lot of time for communication and hobby, but no office, nor familiar, nor the hobbies do you like, even the easiest, from the point of view of others, the working week will squint all the juices.
The most common "cost articles" of the resource is regular physical and mental overloads, painful interpersonal relationships (here we are talking about romantic, and about friendly alliances, and even the relations of fathers and children), an unloved business and background anxiety, which is suffering about sixty percent of the population. big cities. We will understand in order.
Even the most reset and devastated organism is possible to "pump" by the resource
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With overloads, it is more or less clear. I spend the physical and mental capabilities of your body, even on the most interesting and favorite project, you risks one day to stay at the broken trough - your body and mind will simply refuse to work at the limit. It must be remembered that each of us has an individual resource limit: someone has three days in non-stop mode to fully develop yourself, someone can hold over for years. Important point: Fast fatigue is rapidly compensated by rest, but those who are accustomed to the marathon loads, and restore after them can for months. How to be not to bring yourself to the edge? Tips are simple and understood: regular nutrition (preferably close to the correct), change of activity and sleep. Where is clearer?
And then we go to the rest of the "expense articles" of the resource, because of which it is often impossible to eat normally, nor falling down. The tremendous amount of the resource is simply leaving for maintaining hazardous relationships, which do not deliver neither joy, no satisfaction or calmness. About how to finish an unhealthy union, you can write not one separate article. As part of our topic, we note that toxic (poisoning your life) Relationships should be robbed without regrets and with the philosophical attitude, it seems that "My always come back to me." Remember that the link destroying you is not only an unsuccessful romance with another "inappropriate" partner, but also a harmful colleague, manipulating you, and a dusty "friend", ready to criticize and comment on every step. The most terrible and resource-proof will always have toxic relationships between relatives - parents and children, brothers and sisters, spouses. Here the situation is complicated by the fact that the "vicious circle" is not so easy - too much connects and keeps you together. And yet it is necessary to harmonize such unions. Work over the understanding of your own borders, register your principles and understand what compromises you are ready to go, and what concessions are impossible for you.
Another point that consumes our battery charge is to stay on the unloved job. According to the latest social polls, about half of adult workers of the metropolis are disappointed in their business and literally pull strap. It is necessary to say that such a daily practice turns life into a catguard. Just imagine that every morning you go to serve a message somewhere, where everything is not cute - and colleagues are terrible, and the office is cold, and the very case that will have to do, it seems useless, unnecessary, stupid. What do you think how much power will go on the road to such a "beautiful" place? Remember how reluctant did you go, for example, to school on an unloved subject? And how they flew literally on the wings, when the discipline that you succeeded! In the example of a school, children have practically no choice, you want or do not want to visit hated mathematics (Russian, physical education - anything) is necessary. But what makes adults, independent, conscious people from day to day drag there, where are they bad?
It is important to try not to justify yourself with the need to make money and the phrase "everyone lives", otherwise the era of change will never come.
Emergency
Finding out where we spend most of our psychological resource, it is important to "shout hatches" and start withdrawing your energy balance in Plus. But let's give a report: only in the movie everything turns out perfectly and the first time. Often the process of changing activities or a gap with a toxic partner can delay for a long time, against the background of which one of the most destructive and dangerous habits are actively produced - the habit of worrying about and without it. She finally cleaned the psychological resource. And here he, a deplorable result: no strength, energy on the outcome, depression on the threshold.
Our goal is to make care of yourself and our own good habit.
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Work with anxiety may take more than one year. This is one of the most popular queries to psychotherapists, and resolve the problem by reading the article, we, unfortunately, will not come out. But in parallel with the work on the level of its own anxiety, it is important to start the resource restoration activity.
It should be understood that "replenishing the balance" will need to be regularly, without excuses and references to the lack of money, time and desire. Our goal is to make care of yourself and your own good habit - in contrast to the bad habit of worrying.
Resources are replenished in a state of relaxation, and, it means that we need to understand that it will lead us to the state of peace and harmony. There are no universal councils here and can not be: people are so different that the same thing can bring someone to rabies, and someone is to complete relaxation. You only need to adhere to the policies of absolute honesty. In humans, we can support social games, pretending to seem smarter (kind, in more pictured), what you think. With you, this cannot be done in any way, otherwise the classes that you will pick up for relaxation will not bring you it. Do not try to "keep your face", try to find something that really brings joy and peace.
You do not need to limit yourself with a certain number of items. Replenish the list daily, leaving it in a prominent place. Make it with your morning (daily or evening) ritual, enjoying two to three cases that will delight you. Our goal is to make a guide to action, create instructions to yourself.
Make sure that you have a variety of things in your list: someone can take a few hours, some kind of droplet will be happier in a second, a quarter of your salary will be required, and something will be done in vain. A long list drawn up with a fantasy and sensitivity to its desires is a guarantee that you will have the opportunity to exhale and relax even in the most stressful and hard moment.
You can reasonably ask a question: "And all? Is this your advice on preserving and multiplying my precious domestic resource? " The list may seem "just" a piece of paper with trifles recorded on it, but in fact it is carefully and with love for yourself a compiled document, a visual confirmation of your care, tenderness and love for the main person of your life - to yourself.
Do not try to "hold face", try to find something that really brings joy and peace
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Check-sheet relaxation:
- Sing a song.
- go to the sauna.
- Brightly give up.
- Make a manicure.
- Prepare and eat a cake.
- To have a cup of hot drink.
- go on a date.
- View a new series of the series.
- Walking alone.
- Disassemble the cabinet.
- jump from running in puddle.
- Get quarrel and make up with your loved one.
- Stroking the cat.
Three rules for working with a list:
Do not forget to complement it daily.
Make it diverse, do not spare fantasy.
At least once a week, do any case from the list.