Many women dream of a big family in which there will be many children and pleasant troubles, however, with the advent of the first child, a woman understands that even with one baby - a real feat. The decision on the second child is not given so simple, and yet we decided to help you make the right choice.
"There would be a large apartment, then ..."
Probably, the majority of doubts arise exactly on the soil of the apartment issue, as several children can no longer grow in the odnushka, where they have to be crowded with their parents. Ideally, each child should have a separate room, if you're lucky and the children will be one sex, you can do one childhood, but not everyone is lucky.
Most often, family couples can afford to decide on the second child, but the dreams of a huge apartment with panoramic windows leave their minds and the decision on the birth of a second child has to be postponed. Are you sure that such a global dream will come in the near future? If not, it is possible, it is still decided to become parents for the second time if you dreamed about it for a long time. In addition, who forbids you buy an apartment, having two children on the hands?
With your husband and family, you will handle everything
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"Where to get so much money?"
Many parents are confused by this time. No one suggests that the children will starve and keep things on each other, but good education, all sorts of subscriptions in the section there are decent money, especially in conditions of living in large cities. Not everyone can pull out such costs. Nevertheless, the reasonable distribution of funds can help solve this problem: the next shoes from the world brand can be sacrificed. Among other things, you can always calculate the support of social services that carry out all sorts of ways to support young and large mothers.
"What about a career?"
Millions of mothers worldwide successfully combine career and motherhood, the benefit today has the opportunity to work remotely. However, most mothers are completely immersed in care for children, and when "emerging", there were huge changes in their field of activity, to keep up with which it is not so simple. There are several options here, it all depends on what your further life you see:
- You can completely devote yourself to children.
- If the first point you does not suit you, we are looking for a nanny for kids and we are doing the missed one.
- Change the generation.
"What? Once again through this hell? Never!"
No less popular reason. Unsuccessful childbirth experience can seriously affect your decision. Yes, and the first months after the birth of the baby, they can seriously affect the psyche of a young and inexperienced mother: sleepless nights, crying baby, a million business in the house, etc. Woman can be understood.
You can overcome fear in the office of a specialist, together with a psychologist, you define that it was so shocked that the idea of the second childbirth is horrified. If the case is in domestic problems, then with the support of the spouse and family, you will great handle not only with the second, but also a third child.