Psychologists believe that every person steppoints with age crises, in each of which reveals its aspect of life - self-consciousness, relationship with family, the formation of a circle of friends, the search for the affairs of life and so on. In children, the crisis of socialization falls on 7 and 14-15 years: at this time the ego is actively formed, self-consciousness separately from society. If you do not work out the topic of self-assessment and the situation in society, in the future the child may have problems with building workers and personal relations.
It all starts with the family
Since the child has a significant part of time spends at home and constantly communicates with a narrow circle of relatives, it is important to understand that these people initially form his self-esteem. There are two unhealthy relationship models, but both of them are closely related to compliance. In the first case, the child constantly controls: give a huge list of instructions, do not ask his opinions, do not include adults in conversations, scold for the slightest misdeed, control the compliance of the day. In the second case, they are overly torn: buy clothes, prepare food, meet from school, make lessons together, follow the day of the day. Neither the one nor another option gives a good result - the child is either constantly waiting for punishment and ceases to reckon with his own opinion, or he thinks that all his life will help him - from domestic affairs to workers. Going beyond the family, he is looking for friends in a psychotica, and not interests, ready to obey.
Do not drive the child in the corner, give him freedom of choice
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Take a child hobby
Sport is a powerful incentive for physical, mental and emotional development. Not in vain say that training is hardened. Self-assessment is formed, the ability to resist emotional pressure, the concentration of the result and the power of the will - all this has a positive effect on the psyche of the child. In communicating with peers, he will not allow them to control them, but rather it will be the leader of the group. They do not mock at school, but respect them, because for the rapid body the force is equal to high social status. In addition, during classes in the group, the child will get acquainted with the same peers who will become great friends for him.
Talking more often
When a child trusts his parents and tells them about their failures and fears, it becomes much easier to cope with them. Explain that the child in making decisions should be guided by the logic and not forget about the feelings, it is not obliged to agree on adventures, even if "everyone is doing", and independently form a circle of friends, and not wait for interest on it from others. In adolescence, we advise you to record a child for a consultation to a psychologist with whom he will be able to discuss his problems in detail. The specialist understands the features of the psyche of a teenager, so it will be able to help him independently find a way out of a difficult situation and learn to control his emotions. At the age of 14-15 years, children already have a formed value system, goals in life and approximately represent, in which direction they want to develop, so the consultation will only add clarity to these plans.
Teach independence
The ability to prepare a breakfast, load the washing machine, getting into your room - from this household level the child adaptation to adulthood begins. From the age of 6-7 years old, you can give small amounts for the purchase of sweets and toys, start a piggy bank for coins. Next comes directly socialization - allow you to go to your friends to friends, invite them to yourself, send them to excursion tours with a class, let yourself go to school and home. These small steps in the amount play a huge role in the formation of a person. The main thing here is to agree that the child will inform you about the place of his find, calling or writing SMS by phone or writing. For particularly alarming parents, "smart" clocks tracking the baby location are invented.
Light a child for overnight stays to friends
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If you want the kid to grew up a full-fledged person, from an early age, teach it to independence and read with his opinion. A child who has grown in a happy family, in the future does not experience problems with self-esteem and building relationships with others.