Today we can give children almost everything - from first-class education to the most insane "Wishlists", but most parents are powerless when the baby begins to show qualities, the nature of which is incomprehensible to the parent. Modern mothers and dads will prefer to reassure the child without clarifying the cause of crying or bad mood, but by any purchase, if only the child is not "kis." And if in the case of a bad mood, the parent can cope relatively painlessly, then the manifestation of aggression from the child can become a real problem not only for the family, but for others, and it is sometimes very difficult to deal with negative manifestations. We thought and gathered several tips for the desperate parents before you consult a children's psychologist.
Do not hide emotions
We all have anger from time to time, irritation, but at the same time try to hide it, because since childhood was taught to control themselves. However, the children feel beautifully the mood of adults, your hidden anger can somehow affect the baby who does not understand why mom or dad are so angry. Do not go into details, but only explain to the child that now you are not the best feelings, and that there is nothing wrong with that if you do not splash them on others. Teach the baby to share with you in those moments when he himself is experiencing unpleasant feelings, so you can speak them together and avoid a burst at the most inopportune moment.
Submit example
Sometimes we want the child to be better than we ourselves, and the requirements that the child is sometimes not capable of performing. If you yourself do not mind to be able to contemplate with close and neighbors, what do you expect from the child? He will consider such a behavior of the norm and to your words as to how bad it is, listening exactly will not.
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If the negative burst is inevitable, you will have to cope with the consequences on the spot: the child is indignant, trying to hit you or another person - the best way to calm the screaming of the child will be a strong hug. First, you keep the child from irreversible actions, and secondly, take a blow to yourself, helping the baby to cope with the overwhelming negative energy. The main thing is no criticism and reverse aggression!
Do not be categorical
As we said, it is impossible to prohibit negative emotions, if the child exhibits aggression for quite obvious reasons, do not interfere, until the child's actions are threatening the security of his children around him. At this point, try to switch it attention, and when the child calms down a little, explain how to redirect bad emotions and how to deal with anger, but, naturally, we explain that the baby understands and was able to apply your tips in practice.
Share someone else's experience
If your own example does not have the desired effect, and this happens most often with teenagers, contact a person who has "weight" in the eyes of a child, it can be anyone. Tell us what you know when this man felt no matter and how he tried to overcome aggressive mood. Most often we are talking about famous people, which are not so difficult to find information on the network.
No negative from the outside
Most of the time, our children are spent in front of the laptop screen or playing games on your phone. Parents rarely control that the child looks at or what game is going to download - Modern children very quickly learn to handle gadgets and make it so that the parent has the minimal opportunity to intervene. However, it is worth intervening if you notice that the child is over-excited after the next round in his game. I unobtrusively ask, what the baby loves to play the most or check the story in his phone. If you understand that instead of strategies, the child prefers shooters, while easy excitability is quickly replaced by aggression, take action, pre-offering the child an alternative.
Contact psychologist
If you understand that you will not work independently with negative reactions, obviously, it is necessary to intervene a specialist. You should not be afraid of stories about unsuccessful therapy, which your acquaintances or relatives passed - your experience is unique and the Council of a qualified psychologist will never be superfluous: you will understand how to react to certain manifestations of aggression and learn to stop the attacks earlier than those surrounding will have time to get frightened.