At the same time, in childhood, we form relationships with parents. Relations with them later and will define our ability to create contact with other people. Communication with the most significant images in life is a certain matrix of our perception of the world and others.
And if we do not remember a lot about your childhood, often it is evidence that the helpful memory erased some of the difficult memories.
An illustration of this is such a dream:
"I recently ordered a dream that would clarify what happened in my childhood, which still affects my life. And I dreamed of a dream, where the main characters are the souls. What you look like - I can't say, but feelings are the souls. I am flying next to the older soul. Very native to me. She is God for me. I trust her infinitely. And suddenly physically in a dream, as in reality, I begin to feel a stroke on my throat. That is, she shakes me. And laughs. I can not do anything. I have only helplessness, amazement, weakness and feeling of self-miserable and insignificant. And the brightest feeling is wild fear. Then I almost woke up and continued to sleep in a half, or I continued the dream by what I came to life - whether I didn't think of me, whether I suddenly needed this soul at the last moment. I continued to fly with her around after a while, because I did not remember anything. Did not remember the suffocation. It remains only the incomprehensible feeling of selflessness, inferiority, helplessness. Another intuitive distrust of others. I began to fly a little further from this soul, but with the former love. "
Sleep indicates that there is some kind of absolute, the authoritative soul next to our dreamy. And this soul instead of love and support turns around for a dream threat to life. Such dreams are often shot by those who were brought up and punished physically. The child is trapped. Normal behavior in case of overlooking it would be escaped or repulsed. But since the offender is an adult he loves and needs him, the child has to take into account possible punishment. It turns into anxious, mbind, suspicious, incredulous.
Although many parents raise children with slap and shocks, but no one gives this value. In fact, it is one of the most common and fatal parental mistakes. Thus, they inspire the thought of the child that his body is not valuable that it can be destroyed and invade him by the mood. Growing, such children do not know how to defend themselves before others, especially before authorities.
Apparently, the dream of our dreams in reinforced form reflects what probably she experienced in a relationship with favorite authorities - a threat that she remembered rather unconsciously than consciously.
And only through sleep, it has the ability to get in touch with a distance and fear that is always present in the relationship.
Maria Dyachkova, PSYCHOLOGIST, Family therapist and leading trainings of personal growth Training center Marika Khazin