Often, parents in the rustling of anger can tell the child a lot of unpleasant words seemingly innocuous, but in fact dealt with strong harm to the psyche. Sometimes adults do not even understand how many words their words can hurt. Today we will tell you about stop phrases that do not exactly tell the child, even if he renovated.
"If you continue to behave this, Uncle Police will take you"
The most important rule for the parent: It is impossible to inspire fear and anxiety to his children, and even more so, to threaten them. For him, you are the only person all over the world who can protect him. "So even a mom threatens, then I am completely alone?" - Child thinks. Talk to him, explain why his behavior is unable, but do not let him think that mom or dad is ready to give it to mystical police officer in any difficult situation.
Smile child - the merit of parents
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"You should not cry! You're a boy "
The depreciation of the feelings of any person, even an adult, can adversely affect his psychological state, what to talk about the child. It is not ashamed to cry, because the child is distressed. Your task is to find out the reason for the disorder, and not to pour oil into the fire with the denial of his feelings.
"We are doing everything with your father for your sake!"
This phrase you inspire your child a sense of guilt, which in more adult age will grow into the complexes and permanent feeling that he should someone. The child did not ask him to give birth - it was your decision, so providing your child a good life - your duty, not his whim.
"I'm already at your age ..."
Substitute this phrase you can anything. Many parents mistakenly believe that these words motivate the child to new victories and accomplishments. In fact, this leads to the fact that the child feels not good enough, because it cannot achieve the ideal drawn by his parents. So the complex of inferiority is born.
"But Dasha from the neighboring yard ..."
Never compare your child with someone, because it is another way to a complex of inferiority. Maybe Dasha from the neighboring yard has already been washing the dishes on its own, but then your child draws well. Instead of scolding for the lack of skill, praise the child for those that he already has.
Parents for a child - the whole world
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"You're guilty because you are the eldest"
The child has just survived the appearance of another baby in your home, which was already a strong stress for him, because before he was the only one, and all love got him. Accusing the eldest in all sins, you grow in it hatred for yourself, the youngest sister or brother, and perhaps and to all children in general.
"You are still too small to know this"
Do not kill the curiosity of the child to the root. If he asks you about something complicated, try to explain it to him with simple words. Even if he does not understand, the child will know what can appeal to parents with any question.