Everyone has controversial situations in a relationship with a loved one. Sometimes I want to ask any question regarding our partner's past, but we ignore, do it or not. The psychologist-sexologist and sex blogger Larisa Konstantinidi said in detail what it was possible, and what was unacceptable to discuss in relations.
Psychologist-sexologist, sex blogger Larisa Konstantinidi @lori_talks:
It is important to communicate with each other to different topics, discuss personal boundaries in the relationship, because the lack of discussion is poured into conflicts and misunderstanding. When the topic of discussion concerns two partners, you can discuss everything because this is what happens between you and that forms your relationship. At the very beginning, you need to discuss the format of your relationship that you are waiting for them. It may be that the guy is looking for the love of his life, and the girl is now not tuned at all on the relationship, she is pleasant for the format of sex in friendship. Nobody discusses it, and when the relationship becomes a little more serious, it leads to misunderstanding. Suppose a man says that he needs children and family now, and the girl may not plan children - all this must be discussed.
Discuss personal borders
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At the initial stage of relations, it is necessary to discuss the question of contraception, the sex constitution of each other. At the beginning, we all happen hormonal splash, we want 24/7 each other, but after a while, when the feelings slightly cool, we return to the norm. In order to talk about it at all, you need to know something about yourself, so it is important to pay time to studying your body.
It is no less important to discuss all the nuances to get pleasure in sex. Discuss borders, what practitioners are acceptable for you, and which are not. Often everything happens spontaneously during sex, someone decides to take the initiative into their hands, and then either there is an excellent experience that rarely, or there are unpleasant moments. It is necessary to discuss the issue of sexual health, exchange certificates at least. If there is no, it is worth going together to pass tests. Find out what kind of protection is suitable for you - hormonal or not hormonal.
At the very beginning you need to discuss the format of your relationship that you are waiting for them
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Discuss personal borders. There are people who do not like to discuss past experience, but I, for example, for knowing, for what reason your partner broke up with a past girl to understand more about a person. Suddenly they broke up due to psychological violence, beatings, you do not know and enter into relationships with the absurr. At all, it is not necessary to depreciate the partner and his experience, condemn where your assessment was not required. No need to lower conflicts and negative moments on samonek, because they themselves are not solved. It is important to discuss how you will act in a particular case with a conflict, because sometimes it is better to disperse on time, cool and then discuss the problem, because it often happens that the quarrels reach the hands-written, insult, cry, and better to disperse at this moment At different angles and calm down.