Unwanted behavior in relations has many reasons - from situational to clinical. However, when you are just starting a relationship, pink glasses can filter red hazard signals, which leads to trends to justify unacceptable behavior. Of course, many people sometimes behave badly, including showing signs of egoism, insensitivity and egocentrism. But studies show that there is a certain type of "dark personality", which may not be bad for a more vile cause - from pleasure. We explain why this happens and how to identify such signals in your partner.
Sinister element of sadism
When you think about Sadizma, you may think about the notorious Marquis de Garda or similar characters known for our strange inclinations. But sadism is more than causing physical pain. This is the pleasure of causing harm to another in any way. Scientist Delleta L. Polhus with colleagues investigated ways that sadism interacts. They explain that the "Dark Triad" refers to the aggregate of three "socially aggressive personal variables", namely: psychopathy, narcissism and magiavellism. They note that, although each of them has parallels with real clinical states, they also arise and demonstrate significant differences in samples from non-clinical groups of the population.
Violence is not only physical, but also psychological
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What to pay attention to
Speaking easier, all models of behavior should be the signals for you, where a person puts himself as the center of the Universe and ignores the desires of other people, and also inclined to forced measures towards others, whatever they are. For example, a conversation when you are tired and wish to relax, or the use of physical violence. Here are five habits of men who should beware of:
Blackmail. You have the right to part with a person in good relationship, do not hear in response to insults and threats. If the guy begins to manipulate the fact that the correspondence or intimate photo "will", this is an explicit signal that it is impossible to return to such a man back.
Irritability. If a man gets fast, and then repents, before you, too, a person with an inflicted psyche. Any measure of mental or physical violence is unacceptable in a healthy equal partnership.
Revenge. The wish of injuries or what is worse than ill-wishers - also not the norm. Even if it was cut on the road, they overtook in line, insulted at work, all this is not a reason to spout on the negative in your presence. With any psychological tension, you can cope with conventional ways - in training or during a conversation with a close person.
Cruelty. In relation to people, cruelty should not be applied in the same way as in relation to animals. If a man allows himself to strike a pet for bad behavior, then he has obvious problems with his head. Pay attention to such signs - they are really serious.
In relation to animals, cruelty is unacceptable
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Control. Only you know what you want and what you need. If the partner decides itself for two without your participation, it means that he does not put anything. In a pair, people should talk and come to a general decision, and not to act alone when it comes to not your freedom, but two at the same time.